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Newly wed 3
There are a lot of things that God has given us the ability to plan and carry out ourselves, but there are some things that God has left to His Sovereignty. While we are aware that there are times and season for certain things to take place, the exact timing of most events in our lives is something only the Father knows. I had a plan. I knew when I wanted to get married and when I wanted to have children, taking into account my age and physical fitness. I got married 4 years after my personal schedule, but I still wanted to wait a few months before starting the…
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Newlywed vibes 2
When I married my husband, I did not for once that my husband andI would live apart. This is something I never imagined in my wildest dreams that I will have to deal with but one thing I have learnt about being married is to be open to change and make the best of every situation no matter how bad it seems. I was believing God for a job and actually wrote down all I wanted in the new job. I kept praying and believing God. I got a call from a friend in the UK asking me if I was interested in a job in an organization here in…
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Newlywed vibes 1
One of the comments I heard while I was single from some well-intentioned guys is “I am your husband” . It was enough for me to walk away laughing. However, this little statement has had a different effect on me since I said ‘I DO’. Marriage is good – it really is, and I’ll defend and support getting married to the right person any day and anytime. However, God in His infinite wisdom has decided that we would not come to each other as perfect beings, but work together to achieve perfection in Him. The process is not a joke. Three weeks after I got married my husband demanded that…
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Desperate Marriage
I met my husband at my church convention, one of the biggest ministries in Africa. We served in the same unit and got talking. We became friends and later o,n he proposed. I was 36 years and I was already anxious because all my five sisters got married in their mid-twenties, the one considered to have gotten married late was 29 and it was because she was studying for her masters. My husband was into dry cleaning business and after a while, the business packed up. I wasn’t deterred, I was confident things would work, I had my plans laid out. I was running a side business because where I…
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Wicked Lovers
I did not mean to eavesdrop but the conversation was being said in such a way that I could not help but listen. Two of my bosses were discussing their current predicament. One was advising the other on what to do since he had had the experience before. They had both been struck by the “D” word. “Make sure you move the money to your independent account . My ex transferred all the money to her account on the night she told me she wanted a divorce!” I was wondering why that was the most important thing for a wife to do on the night of a divorce announcement but…
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Foolish Lovers
I come from a broken home with both parents remarried. I was the only child between them. I was very lonely growing up because my siblings from both my parents were my half brothers and sisters and I was always seen and treated as the outsider so I never really belonged anywhere. I had vowed even before I met Christ that no child of mine would experience the kind of life I had. Being a Christian helped to reinforce my decision. I would marry a God-fearing woman who loved God and will honor our marriage. A nagging voice at the back of my mind kept whispering to me that divorce…
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Cheating Lovers
One of the great things about social media is the variety of madness people can put out there. Almost anybody can say anything. All they actually need is to have a smart phone and and internet connection .And if there is one genre that generates a lot of interest and following, it is the theme of relationships . Just today, I saw a flyer for a programmer on “how to stay with a cheating man:”. I am not sure what the attendance would be, especially as it is a paid event and I doubt if society would tolerate the female version “how to stay with a cheating woman:”. I…
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Finally,my own baby 4
I got married to my husband in 2006, and although we were both married as virgins, it took another nine years before we were able to welcome our first baby, and I eventually bore the name Mother in December 2015. That period was the most trying period of my life, and I learned several things. One of the things it taught me was patience and longsuffering; as I developed these qualities, they have helped me with other challenges in my life. The thing about waiting for a child is that it is not just your problem. Everyone else can see the problem, which in itself is a problem as it…
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Still celebrating dads
Although It has been a few weeks after Father’s day, the memories of the weeks before that day are really fresh in my mind I as well as yourself hopefully belong to a number of Whatsapp groups. I found that the week just before Father’s Day, most guys on these various platforms begin to put reminders advising the ladies not to claim ignorance of their coming “day” as well as advising on likely presents and how they would love to be treated. There were also some texts that were actually complaints of how the “fathers” actually are the ones who bear the brunt on all the so-called celebration days- Valentine’s…
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Celebrating dads
Some years ago, as the month of June approached, I looked at the theme for the month. I thought about how I would appreciate my dad by talking about the things he did that I took for granted. I wish he was here and seeing my children around me makes me grateful that their dad is around. I wish I said more when my dad was around. I still have something to say. I know I cannot tell you any more on this side of heaven but I wanted to let you know no Father’s Day has passed without thinking again about you. I think the best way is to…
