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Newly wed 3
There are a lot of things that God has given us the ability to plan and carry out ourselves, but there are some things that God has left to His Sovereignty. While we are aware that there are times and season for certain things to take place, the exact timing of most events in our lives is something only the Father knows. I had a plan. I knew when I wanted to get married and when I wanted to have children, taking into account my age and physical fitness. I got married 4 years after my personal schedule, but I still wanted to wait a few months before starting the…
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Newlywed vibes 2
When I married my husband, I did not for once that my husband andI would live apart. This is something I never imagined in my wildest dreams that I will have to deal with but one thing I have learnt about being married is to be open to change and make the best of every situation no matter how bad it seems. I was believing God for a job and actually wrote down all I wanted in the new job. I kept praying and believing God. I got a call from a friend in the UK asking me if I was interested in a job in an organization here in…
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Desperate Marriage
I met my husband at my church convention, one of the biggest ministries in Africa. We served in the same unit and got talking. We became friends and later o,n he proposed. I was 36 years and I was already anxious because all my five sisters got married in their mid-twenties, the one considered to have gotten married late was 29 and it was because she was studying for her masters. My husband was into dry cleaning business and after a while, the business packed up. I wasn’t deterred, I was confident things would work, I had my plans laid out. I was running a side business because where I…
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Wicked Lovers
I did not mean to eavesdrop but the conversation was being said in such a way that I could not help but listen. Two of my bosses were discussing their current predicament. One was advising the other on what to do since he had had the experience before. They had both been struck by the “D” word. “Make sure you move the money to your independent account . My ex transferred all the money to her account on the night she told me she wanted a divorce!” I was wondering why that was the most important thing for a wife to do on the night of a divorce announcement but…
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Loving the odds
The months have moved on so quickly and we are now in June . We will be taking a break from the “Finally,a mum series” as we take the time to look at our dads and celebrate them I know a lot of people who found maths to be one of the toughest challenges in life during high school. It wasn’t so much that it was terrible, or all the teachers were horrible; it just presented challenges that the mind genuinely did not want to handle. Even numbers are beautiful! I gradually appreciated the usefulness of odd numbers until I met prime numbers. Does anyone remember being asked to find…
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Consistently consistent
My daughter had a sudden break out of acne. It was everywhere. I mean everywhere on her face. And so I asked her about the activated charcoal soap I gave, she smiled and said it’s there🤦🤦. Am learning to ask teenagers more direct questions 🙄🙄🙄. So I said “are you using it?” She started laughing. I guess we all know the answer. She wasn’t using it. So I gave her mine. By the next day, she walked up to me very excited and said “mummy, it clearing”. I rolled my eyes and said “Duhh” (yes, sometimes I speak in their language 😁) But 2 days later, no progress on the…
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Entitled Sex
So last week, Gracilis was talking about sexual assault and attempted rape. Interestingly enough, none of the perpetrators were friends of the ladies and I sometimes wonder how perpetrators get to that sense of entitlement. I could fully empathize with the writers and glad that Gracilis had a narrow escape . It made me remember when I had to stay over at a friend’s place some years ago. This friend was not in town and allowed me to stay over for a few days. As I got into the room, thanking God for a safe journey and unpacking my bags, I heard a neighbouring female moaning in the bliss of…
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Consent & Sexual Assault
Today delivers a heavy topic but a particularly important one. It goes without saying (but must be very clearly stated) that sexual assault is only ever caused by one person, the perpetrator. FULLSTOP!!! I believe that sex is a beautiful gift that was meant to be enjoyed by a man and woman who are united in holy matrimony and have consented to the act at that particular point in time. Obviously, sex takes place in other settings as well and it is important to acknowledge that. Like every good thing in this world, people misuse this gift in sadistic, disgusting ways. I wonder how God must feel when he sees…
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Positive Affirmations
Even though his birthday had passed, for some unexplainable reason, my son was singing “it’s my birthday, am gonna do what I like, am gonna eat what I like, everybody loves me, it’s my birthday” As usual his twin sister got irritated and said” it’s not your birthday”. He said ” ehnn, leave me” And he kept singing. Moments later she said “you can’t do what you like” He said ” maybe you can’t but I can” And he kept on singing. She said “not everybody loves you” At this point, he didn’t even bother to reply, he just kept singing. Much louder this time. Got to a stage where…
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Wishful Thinking
I came across this little piece and I am drawn to the fact that it reminds me of how many times I have sometimes wished to have certain results without doing the work . It has led to frustration and the need to go back to the drawboard and take the necessary steps. We could even look at others and begrudge them for their results , forgetting the fact that while they put in the necessary work, all we had was “Wishful Thinking” . As long as there is more than one child in a house, there always be a case to settle. Just ask any mum. There’s always…
