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Marriage is ……
Happy new year once again! I am so excited to be back at my desk and writing. I have thought of several things to say but maybe I should start with this one as it relates to what I want to talk about. Towards the end of last year, I got married! Thank you for your congratulations. That is a life changing event I owe you as my readers to know. Perhaps it would show in the style of writing, going forwards. You know it was really an exciting time before the wedding. As the countdown to the wedding started, I had to answer several phone calls and agree to…
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Wicked Lovers
I did not mean to eavesdrop but the conversation was being said in such a way that I could not help but listen. Two of my bosses were discussing their current predicament. One was advising the other on what to do since he had had the experience before. They had both been struck by the “D” word. “Make sure you move the money to your independent account . My ex transferred all the money to her account on the night she told me she wanted a divorce!” I was wondering why that was the most important thing for a wife to do on the night of a divorce announcement but…
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Cheating Lovers
One of the great things about social media is the variety of madness people can put out there. Almost anybody can say anything. All they actually need is to have a smart phone and and internet connection .And if there is one genre that generates a lot of interest and following, it is the theme of relationships . Just today, I saw a flyer for a programmer on “how to stay with a cheating man:”. I am not sure what the attendance would be, especially as it is a paid event and I doubt if society would tolerate the female version “how to stay with a cheating woman:”. I…
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Still celebrating dads
Although It has been a few weeks after Father’s day, the memories of the weeks before that day are really fresh in my mind I as well as yourself hopefully belong to a number of Whatsapp groups. I found that the week just before Father’s Day, most guys on these various platforms begin to put reminders advising the ladies not to claim ignorance of their coming “day” as well as advising on likely presents and how they would love to be treated. There were also some texts that were actually complaints of how the “fathers” actually are the ones who bear the brunt on all the so-called celebration days- Valentine’s…
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Finally ,my own baby
While we were growing up ,we lived in a close and we had a couple who were also church members on that close .They were our adopted “auntie and uncle”. My brothers and I almost by default went to their house whenever possible and if my memory serves me well, we spent some holidays especially during the weekends with them. We accompanied them to places and they had a very active social life. We were like their children as they did not have kids at the time . I remember a visit to Federal Palace Hotel, Lagos and visiting other notable places with them .I did not really understand the…
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Mum did know
One of the benefits of becoming older is that we begin to acknowledge the sacrifices our parents made; putting food on the table, shelter over our heads , giving us education as they could afford and then the part we come to appreciate later, disciplining us. While I was growing up, my mother was greatly feared by myself. Being a strong disciplinarian, she did not spare the rod at all but I would not say I was beaten unnecessarily. Most times, when I got a beating, it was well deserved. One of the beatings that still remains eternally tattooed in my memory was the one I got the first time…
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After Valentine’s Day 2
I still remember the first Valentine cantered conversation I overheard .It was in a class in an A-level schooI attended in preparation for the university admission. So these two guys were talking about how the day went. One of them mentioned his girlfriend had come with a card and a present to wish him a happy day but he wanted something more and told her that ,if she really loved him, she should give him her body . I don’t know how my ears didn’t drop but having grown up all my life in church ,my immediate conclusion was that she was going to get pregnant .I was appalled especially…
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After Valentine’s Day
So this week was Valentine and it was right in the middle of a working week. This was a valid excuse for not going out for me. Coupled with the fact that I enjoy relaxing after work at home. Well, one of the things I did was to scan social media as knew there will be some pranks for the day and I was not disappointed. In short, the very first one was a tweet from one guy asking that people should kindly tweet till it got to the present consent. Meanwhile, his tweet was to one certain named fellow. not to buy the lie, his girlfriend named also would…
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Violence Against Women
Tomorrow we will be celebrating the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women and violence in itself has got many forms. Violence can sometimes be physical but there can be verbal violence .There can also be sexual violence which can be first manifest as emotional violence. And when we celebrate a day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. It brings us to a place where we consider one of the greatest forms of violence against women- the subject of sexual violence and considering rape .Current statistics show that about 2.5% of women and 0.4% of male have been victims of a sexual offence with about 90% of the…
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About Frenemies 2
After last week’s article on Frenemies, I got feedback from people that showed that it was something that resonated with them . As I thought about the sequalae, and what next to write, I suddenly remembered what a friend once told me about her dad. We were talking about something and the name of a government official came up. This man was among the first five men ruling the country at that time. She shocked me when she said “that man was my dad’s friend. He used to visit our house”. I was really surprised that they knew such an influential person in the corridors of power and before I…
