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From a dad…
I sat and watched with apt attention to see what was going to unfold between these two. Oh, it was really nothing sinister, rather more intriguing than the latter. It was the interaction between Daniel and Bibi. You see Daniel is my friend, we have been friends from when we were young men without a care in the world. In that time and at the stage we were at, I would say Daniel had done rather well for himself and as such decided to ‘settle down’ and get married. Bibi, on the other hand, is Daniel’s 4-year-old, the product of the aforementioned marriage. The scene I was watching with great…
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Loving the odds
The months have moved on so quickly and we are now in June . We will be taking a break from the “Finally,a mum series” as we take the time to look at our dads and celebrate them I know a lot of people who found maths to be one of the toughest challenges in life during high school. It wasn’t so much that it was terrible, or all the teachers were horrible; it just presented challenges that the mind genuinely did not want to handle. Even numbers are beautiful! I gradually appreciated the usefulness of odd numbers until I met prime numbers. Does anyone remember being asked to find…
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What Men want…..5
There is something that evokes the depth of our emotion when we see someone crying and one husband comments “Men can be hurt and cry privately in their own way sometimes. “ I gave this point a bit of thought and I would say this also goes out to both genders. To the guys, it’s okay to cry when the need arises. Sometimes you are hit with a tornado of an issue, and it takes everything inside you – and more, to keep your head above the waves. One of the husbands I spoke to shared how he had cried on a few occasions openly and his wife just held him in her…
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What Men want …4
We women generally love to talk and it’s not surprising that the men had something to say around this issue. “It’s very insensitive when wives talk bad about their in-laws in the presence of the husband. That hurts deep.” This is a word for all of us and not just women; however, women seem to have mastered the weapon known as the tongue, a bit more than the men. There are a few characters in this drama so everyone should listen up! In most cases the in-law(s) who is the subject of the matter tends to be female so only God knows what she said or did to warrant this…
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What men want …3
Let me just make a confession here. Getting all this information from the men convicted me of some of my actions. “Men are not mind readers – hence the need for clear communication.” In fact, I am guilty of this one right now. I have been moody for over twenty four hours, waiting for hubby to realise that I am not myself and ask what is going on, but the guy is just carrying on as normal and my mood is not getting any better. But come to think of it, if I go and change into something skimpy and walk around the house, still wearing my moody face, I…
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What men want …2
It seems like after the question of how we look was raised , the men shifted to how where we live looks.Bedroom matters came next… “Unfortunately, the bedroom we share starts to look more feminine over time. We men sometimes wish we had our own man cave/bedroom; but for the sake of peace…. Have you seen that scene in ‘How to lose a guy in 10 days’ where Matthew M goes into his bathroom cabinet and sees tampons and shaving stuff and everything girly he never thought he would see in his personal space? That’s the picture I got when I heard this comment. I laughed when I watched that…
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What men want …
I thoroughly enjoy the idea of reporting the news. Journalism was a career option but I didn’t know how I would make that work in Nigeria so I pursued a different dream; but I have always loved the idea of sharing a story, especially when its not mine! So, an opportunity to report on what husbands would like wives to know was something I couldn’t pass-up. For this article, I spoke to a range of husbands and from their feedback, I have picked a few pointers to share: I wish wives would make an effort on their appearance while indoors. We men appreciate things through sight. In our defense dear…
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That “other” Woman 3
Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ….It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right. There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck. It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family. Having anyone on the side to him is…
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That “other” Woman 2
I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old. I am talking practically daily… yeah, right? I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now. I took marriage and children to be a given. It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it? Backed up by my dad’s, ‘work hard, pass Maths and English especially, go to the University, then get…
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Working with in-laws 4
I have been reading with interest this series on In-laws and last week. I noted that a husband shared and so decided to share my experience as a wife. I have been married for over a decade now and have had several interactions with my in-laws but I believe that the tone for this interaction at the end of the day is coloured by what the other partner does or say to their own side of the family . One incident comes to mind that illustrates this point for me. I learned greatly from it, although at the time it occurred, I did not see it in the light. I…
