• Attitude,  Family,  Men Talk

    What Men want…..5

    There is something that evokes the depth of our emotion when we see someone  crying and one husband comments “Men can be hurt and cry privately in their own way sometimes. “ I gave this point a bit of thought and I would say this also goes out to both genders.  To the guys, it’s okay to cry when the need arises.  Sometimes you are hit with a tornado of an issue, and it takes everything inside you – and more, to keep your head above the waves.  One of the husbands I spoke to shared how he had cried on a few occasions openly and his wife just held him in her…

  • Family,  In-Laws,  Relationship skills

    What Men want …4

    We women generally love to talk and it’s not surprising that the men had something to say around this issue. “It’s very insensitive when wives talk bad about their in-laws in the presence of the husband.  That hurts deep.” This is a word for all of us and not just women; however, women seem to have mastered the weapon known as the tongue, a bit more than the men.  There are a few characters in this drama so everyone should listen up! In most cases the in-law(s) who is the subject of the matter tends to be female so only God knows what she said or did to warrant this…

  • Attitude,  Family,  Men Talk,  Relationship skills

    What men want …3

    Let me just make a confession here. Getting all this information from the men convicted me of some of my actions. “Men are not mind readers – hence the need for clear communication.” In fact, I am guilty of this one right now.  I have been moody for over  twenty four hours, waiting for hubby to realise that I am not myself and ask what is going on, but the guy is just carrying on as normal and my mood is not getting any better. But come to think of it, if I go and change into something skimpy and walk around the house, still wearing my moody face, I…

  • Family,  Friendship,  Men Talk,  Relationship skills

    What men want …2

    It seems like after the question of how we look was raised , the men shifted to how where we live looks.Bedroom matters came next… “Unfortunately, the bedroom we share starts to look more feminine over time. We men sometimes wish we had our own man cave/bedroom; but for the sake of peace…. Have you seen that scene in ‘How to lose a guy in 10 days’ where Matthew M goes into his bathroom cabinet and sees tampons and shaving stuff and everything girly he never thought he would see in his personal space? That’s the picture I got when I heard this comment.   I laughed when I watched that…

  • Family,  Friendship,  Men Talk

    What men want …

    I thoroughly enjoy the idea of reporting the news.  Journalism was a career option but I didn’t know how I would make that work in Nigeria so I pursued a different dream; but I have always loved the idea of sharing a story, especially when its not mine!  So, an opportunity to report on what husbands would like wives to know was something I couldn’t pass-up.  For this article, I spoke to a range of husbands and from their feedback, I have picked a few pointers to share: I wish wives would make an effort on their appearance while indoors.  We men appreciate things through sight.  In our defense dear…

  • Family,  Unfaithfulness,  Wedding

    That “other” Woman 3

    Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ….It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right.  There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck.  It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a  husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family.  Having anyone on the side to him is…

  • Family,  Marriage,  Unfaithfulness

    That “other” Woman 2

    I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old.  I am talking practically daily… yeah, right?  I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now.  I took marriage and children to be a given.  It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it?  Backed up by my dad’s, ‘work hard, pass Maths and English especially, go to the University, then get…

  • Family,  In-Laws,  Relationship skills

    Working with in-laws 4

    I have been reading with interest this series on In-laws and last week. I noted that a husband shared and so decided to share my experience as a wife. I have been married for over a decade now and have had several interactions with my in-laws but I believe that the tone for this interaction at the end of the day is coloured by what the other partner does or say to their own side of the family . One incident comes to mind that illustrates this point for me.  I learned greatly from it, although at the time it occurred, I did not see it in the light. I…

  • Family,  In-Laws,  Relationship skills

    Working with in-laws 3

    I have followed dishusbandmata for some years now, and having read several topics and issues discussed, I thought it would be okay to do some articles by way of commenting on some topics that have been of interest to me from a husband’s perspective. Naturally, I wouldn’t be expected to tell long and flowery stories whilst making my views known, rather, I will go straight to the point and hit the hammer on the nail straight away. That’s because I am a man, and men go straight to the point. Maybe one of those things that makes “husbandmata” an issue for  most wifeys. I will try to give a (man’s)…

  • Family,  In-Laws,  Relationship skills

    Working with in-laws 2

    Several years ago, a cousin disclosed to me how she secretly wished for whomever she would eventually get married to, not to have a mother. According to her, she was not cut out to handle any in-law shenanigans. This revelation sent shivers down my spine. Now, why would anyone wish for such a reprehensible thing? It also got me wondering: would the woman I eventually decide to settle down with also harbour a similar wish? Well, I understood where my cousin was coming from. I know her background. Her mother’s experience with her in-laws was unenviable. Now, fast-forward to a few years down the line.  My cousin met this guy.…

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