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Real friends
If you have been following us in the past few weeks, the subject of “frenemies” would not be strange and so I thought to bring a different angle to the whole matter. Someone has rightly said that the existence of a “fake” means that there is an “original”. So the presence of frenemies should not make us bitter as it actually reminds us of the fact that there are also true friends . It is very possible to experience real friendship but we should be ready to do the work . I’ve often pondered on the meaning of this saying “A friend in need is a friend indeed”. There’s something…
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About Frenemies 2
After last week’s article on Frenemies, I got feedback from people that showed that it was something that resonated with them . As I thought about the sequalae, and what next to write, I suddenly remembered what a friend once told me about her dad. We were talking about something and the name of a government official came up. This man was among the first five men ruling the country at that time. She shocked me when she said “that man was my dad’s friend. He used to visit our house”. I was really surprised that they knew such an influential person in the corridors of power and before I…
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About Frenemies
When I was eight years old, a friend whom I met in the after school lessons gave me a card. It was titled “Why God made friends” and although I don’t remember all the words of the card. I remember this part “God made friends because he knew mothers could not be everywhere“. And although it has been over three decades, I look back and see that most of my philosophy of friendship has always had a mother’s perspective. I also learnt how to be a friend by observing how my mum related with her friends, both in their presence and absence. If my mother is your friend, you know your back is covered…
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What men want …2
It seems like after the question of how we look was raised , the men shifted to how where we live looks.Bedroom matters came next… “Unfortunately, the bedroom we share starts to look more feminine over time. We men sometimes wish we had our own man cave/bedroom; but for the sake of peace…. Have you seen that scene in ‘How to lose a guy in 10 days’ where Matthew M goes into his bathroom cabinet and sees tampons and shaving stuff and everything girly he never thought he would see in his personal space? That’s the picture I got when I heard this comment. I laughed when I watched that…
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What men want …
I thoroughly enjoy the idea of reporting the news. Journalism was a career option but I didn’t know how I would make that work in Nigeria so I pursued a different dream; but I have always loved the idea of sharing a story, especially when its not mine! So, an opportunity to report on what husbands would like wives to know was something I couldn’t pass-up. For this article, I spoke to a range of husbands and from their feedback, I have picked a few pointers to share: I wish wives would make an effort on their appearance while indoors. We men appreciate things through sight. In our defense dear…
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Continuing Forever 2
I remember chatting with Uche after reading her post of last week . I could perfectly relate to the disappearance of her friend as I have had a friend do the same thing .The difference however was that my own friend did it more than once and although initially I panicked, with time I recognized the pattern. Long story short is whenever things were not working well for my friend and she was in a seemingly bad place, she would have an excuse for malice. She would cut off and not respond to any form of communication until she had something to ‘shine’ or “show off”. Then she would return…
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Continuing Forever…
As the year gradually draws to a close and the New Year comes to light, it is natural, and even wise, to take a ‘time-out’ and just reflect on what has been. After reading last week’s article on gratitude, I have to say that although it is cliché to ask people to be grateful, it is also necessary as one tends to dwell on the things yet to be, as opposed to what grace has brought us through. When I began the year 2022, I knew there would be highs and lows. I knew there would be some awesome events and some not so cool ones as well; but I…
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True friends
There are friends who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Prov 18:24 RSV I remember reading this verse in my big Revised Standard Version Bible as a teenager while in boarding school. I have enjoyed the benefits of having good friends for a really long time so I’ll try and share some stories and home truths with you. I have to say that when love starts to blossom and grow in your head and heart, having good friends will be a great support. Two experiences stand out in my mind. The first happened when I was 16. I had my…
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A Friend in Deed
I know that in the past weeks, we have been looking at “Frenemies” and while I have had my share of them also, I would like us to end on the note of true friendship. And this is because I have been blessed with more friends than frenemies. I’ve often pondered on the meaning of this saying “A friend in need is a friend indeed”. There’s something about it that seems incomplete, thus giving room for a variety of interpretations. I had to carry out a little research and sure enough, there is more than one meaning to this saying. The first school of thought (which I tend to subscribe…
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Frenemies 2
After last week’s article on Frenemies, I got feedback from people that showed that it was something that resonated with them . As I thought about the sequalae, and what next to write, I suddenly remembered what a friend once told me about her dad. We were talking about something and the name of a government official came up. This man was among the first five men ruling the country at that time. She shocked me when she said “that man was my dad’s friend. He used to visit our house”. I was really surprised that they knew such an influential person in the corridors of power and before I…
