• Introspection,  Relationship skills

    Choosing Joy ….

    My second son has always been a bundle of joy. He keeps playing, and having fun even when things don’t look good. You see, he struggles with his health and with his academics. The difference is very obvious especially since his twin seems to be so good academically and rarely falls ill. He doesn’t say much but I know that he feels bad everytime she gets one more prize or award. But last week his time came. His school had been practicing for interhouse sports and he was representing Green House. On the very last week, he was told to switch to his sister’s house (topaz) This meant he lost…

  • Attitude,  Introspection

    Wishful Thinking

    I came across this little piece and I am drawn to the fact that it reminds me of how many times I have sometimes wished to have certain results without doing the work . It has led to frustration  and the need to go back to the drawboard  and  take the necessary steps. We could even look at others and begrudge them for their results , forgetting the fact that while they put in the necessary work, all we had was  “Wishful Thinking” .    As long as there is more than one child in a house, there always be a case to settle. Just ask any mum. There’s always…

  • Introspection,  Love,  Men Talk

    Finally, …what Men want 6

    Interestingly , there is just one more comment to report . “I wish that when we first got married Babe knew that a lot of her decisions were based on the perceived need to maintain a happy home look…” In this age of social media, there is a lot of pressure to keep up appearances. For example, say hubby is working on the monthly budgets and planning for investments to secure our future and yours truly (et moi) wants to dine at the newest restaurant in town which my friends are going to, so that I can update my status and let them know I’m still the Babe… Society has…

  • Attitude,  Introspection

    The list…

    Usually most Decembers, or perhaps right from the last few weeks of November, most write ups automatically go into the “Thanksgiving mode” where everyone is encouraged to adopt the attitude. “Be grateful”. “Be Thankful,you  made it” .These phrases usually evoke several reactions ranging from an enthusiastic compliance to a too familiar approach and  unfortunately but honestly, resentment. Sometimes we may really find ourselves resenting all the end of the year talk concerning Thanksgiving. After all, there is hardly anything that may have moved off our wish list or changed in our relationships and the need to be grateful is something we have delegated only to those people whose stories almost…

  • Attitude,  Friendship,  Introspection

    Peaceful Neighbours?

    Sometime in 2019, I desperately needed to move out of the apartment I was in for many reasons, two of which were, the services the landlord was providing me were way below par, and my tenancy was long overdue. Before you start to judge me, know that it was not my intention to overstay my welcome. I had initially indicated my intention to new the tenancy on the condition that the landlord fixed some of the obvious issues the property had. However, for whatever reason, he was taking longer than needed to get to it, hence the need to move out urgently. I sat down in my living room that…

  • By Gracilis,  Friendship,  Introspection

    Be Prepared 3

    Wow, January really flew past and it is hard to believe this is the last Friday of the month! Well, that means most of us have been paid and are probably more relaxed. We survived and have found time now to read our favourite blog. And yes, we have missed you too. So we have been talking about being prepared and just as we round up this month, perhaps we should end on the note of being prepared for good things. And when I say that, I mean sometimes the simple things along the way we can do that can just make someone else’s day. Sometimes even a simple hello…

  • Introspection,  Relationship skills

    Mirror mirror

    You are welcome indeed to another year with us and am sure you are looking forward to reading our posts this year. I must say that it is indeed a time of sober reflection for us here as a team and we are truly amazed and humbled at how our writings over the years have changed perspectives and helped not only our relationships but the relationships of others. I remember reading the story of a lady who always watched her neighbour from her house. She used to see the woman very clearly but noticed as the days went by, her vision of her neighbour was getting blurred. She wondered why…

  • Introspection,  Marriage

    “I am your husband”

    What a comment! I smile thinking about the few guys who introduced themselves to me in this way during my single days. It was enough for me to walk away laughing.  However, this little statement has had a different effect on me since I said ‘I DO’.Marriage is good – it really is, and I’ll defend and support getting married to the right person any day and anytime. However, God in His infinite wisdom has decided that we would not come to each other as perfect beings, but work together to achieve perfection in Him. The process is not a joke. Three weeks after I got married my husband demanded…

  • Chronicles of Corona Virus,  Introspection

    Covid 19-The Journey so far…

    Year 2020 was meant to be an amazing year for everyone. There was a lot of speculation and anticipation about what the year would hold and the crazy things that might happen – US Elections, The Olympics and Paralympic Games, Brexit, to name a few. I don’t think many of us had included COVID taking over the world in our predictions for the year. Nevertheless, COVID-19 rudely came and disrupted our world. Initially most of us in the west underestimated the reach and effect of Covid on us “westerners”. However, by February, seeing the virus unleash its fury on Italy was a wake-up call that perhaps we should take this…

  • Introspection,  Resolutions/Change

    In the beginning

    ♥And so we are the start of a year that so many of us could not wait to arrive.  While a lot of people wished 2020 to be over and done with, there were quite a few others who were of a different opinion because of how the year had turned out for them. There was one viral picture of a lady (why was it a lady) and travelling suitcases with the caption that she was not counting 2020 to her years as she did not use it. The laughter It produced was seemingly contagious, although for me, when the dust of the initial humour settled, I was left with…

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