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“The Perfect Picture” reloaded
One of the signs of a good book is the ability to enjoy it over and over again . Some of our artiles have been voted as most read and mostloved and some readers have suggested we put those articles in a categor “Timeless stories” and periodically publish them again. The article below is one of them which I believe is great for us to reread especially as we are almost 2 weeks away fro m Christmas .Enjoy I recently started a new job and am still in the process of knowing everybody. It is almost two weeks now but I still seem to be meeting new people daily. Just…
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Above 40 , single and childless
That is not my portion. Absolutely. I do agree with you I mean that is what I would have said to this topic about two decades ago but as one of my former classmates would say “whose portion is it ?” Today is Mother’s Day(US version) and we will all agree it has come with a difference. However, the Coronavirus should not stop us from celebrating and appreciating our mothers and a big shout out to those who have already done so. This year, rather than the several celebrations and dining out that would have occurred or the recitals and performances that would have been done by several children, we…
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Love is NOT enough
If LOVE was what kept a marriage, then mine would have outshone eternity. I loved my husband and even the devil could testify to that. I had dreams for my home right from the time I was a child. Like almost every woman, I dreamt about the big day and the many happy loving years after that I had read about in those girly novels. My husband(let’s call him Eugene) and I met back in my home country and started a relationship which did not materialize, shortly after which he left the country. Not long after he relocated, I did also and we renewed contact. I had the right legal…
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Red Light
Just this evening when I decided to do my evening duties of writing, I came across the news that it appears BBC Radio 2 has decided to ban the songs of one of the music legends of our time because of the allegations of child sex abuse. I am not taking sides and checking the veracity of these accusations but would love to say that sometimes these things happen much more than we realize. The word “child” could actually be figurative and in a religious context, some adults could be seen as children when compared to their leaders. Unfortunately, people sometimes abuse their spiritual position and just like Folake showed…
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Letting it go
Learning to let go comes to us all as we grow older. The better you are at letting go the more at peace you will be with yourself and the more time you will have to yourself for your self to figure out the person you need to be and to appreciate the people God brings your way who genuinely want to walk this way called life with you. Some relationships are meant to be lifelong like the relationship between husband and wife, children and parents, siblings etc our family ties. Those relationships are worth fighting for, keep on keeping on. as long as it depends on you. The thing…
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Garbage in, Garbage out
Attending a boarding school is one of the very life experiences I am eternally grateful that I had the opportunity of having. In short most of my siblings did . One of the great advantages of being a boarder was the fact that you learnt how to live communally, we ate the same food at the same time, woke up , worked and slept at the same time. Unlike the day students who left the show at 2pm, the borders had 24 hours to each other, leaving there to be no room for pretense It meant that there could be drama and drama in the very sense of the…
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The Good, the Bad & the Ugly
Classifying things into groups is a well known method for enhancing memorization and this can be extended to people including our in-laws. The word “in-law” can instantly produce many memories depending on the various types. While I would not say that we are to be held responsible for their actions, some of their behavior to us are actually reactions to our words and actions. Using the title above, the “good” in-laws as those who have thankfully accepted you as family with no obvious separation between you and the other family members. What is good for the goose is good for the gander and as such ,you are not…
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The Big School
There’s too much drama with the in-laws (at least in my head). It needs to stop. I have realised that I tend to bitch a lot about two groups of people; the people I love the most (hubby, siblings, parents, old school friends who have turned siblings – even if they don’t know this) and the people whose love and acceptance I crave (in laws, would be friends). For category 1; I am not sure why but I expect them to fit into a mould created by me perfectly and I mean PERFECTLY. For category 2; I expect them to love me and accept me unconditionally notwithstanding any failings or differences. They should think I…
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Made for More….
I had looked forward to being a wife so much so that it seemed being one was an end in itself. I never really saw myself as anything more than a working wife and mother. Somewhere along the way, I put a glass ceiling on any type of ambition and fulfilling my personal dreams which are not linked to anyone else. I stopped dreaming full stop. It was as if I no longer existed. There were a few false attempts but I seemed to always chug to a stop content to continue the daily cycle of work and house chores. If I had not married when I did, I would…
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Making me happy
Sitting down at my desk to write this post has not been quite easy. I was thinking I would do it quickly but have just heard about the death of someone I know who happens to be close to a few friends of mine(their Pastor) and sometimes when I hear of deaths like this, I begin to wonder if I am doing enough and doing all I can to ensure that I affect positively the lives of the people I interact with while I am alive and when I am no longer here, then I hope that the legacy I have left in my writings will provide the opportunity for…
