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Newlywed vibes 2
When I married my husband, I did not for once that my husband andI would live apart. This is something I never imagined in my wildest dreams that I will have to deal with but one thing I have learnt about being married is to be open to change and make the best of every situation no matter how bad it seems. I was believing God for a job and actually wrote down all I wanted in the new job. I kept praying and believing God. I got a call from a friend in the UK asking me if I was interested in a job in an organization here in…
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Newlywed vibes 1
One of the comments I heard while I was single from some well-intentioned guys is “I am your husband” . It was enough for me to walk away laughing. However, this little statement has had a different effect on me since I said ‘I DO’. Marriage is good – it really is, and I’ll defend and support getting married to the right person any day and anytime. However, God in His infinite wisdom has decided that we would not come to each other as perfect beings, but work together to achieve perfection in Him. The process is not a joke. Three weeks after I got married my husband demanded that…
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Desperate Marriage
I met my husband at my church convention, one of the biggest ministries in Africa. We served in the same unit and got talking. We became friends and later o,n he proposed. I was 36 years and I was already anxious because all my five sisters got married in their mid-twenties, the one considered to have gotten married late was 29 and it was because she was studying for her masters. My husband was into dry cleaning business and after a while, the business packed up. I wasn’t deterred, I was confident things would work, I had my plans laid out. I was running a side business because where I…
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Cheating Lovers
One of the great things about social media is the variety of madness people can put out there. Almost anybody can say anything. All they actually need is to have a smart phone and and internet connection .And if there is one genre that generates a lot of interest and following, it is the theme of relationships . Just today, I saw a flyer for a programmer on “how to stay with a cheating man:”. I am not sure what the attendance would be, especially as it is a paid event and I doubt if society would tolerate the female version “how to stay with a cheating woman:”. I…
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Loving the odds
The months have moved on so quickly and we are now in June . We will be taking a break from the “Finally,a mum series” as we take the time to look at our dads and celebrate them I know a lot of people who found maths to be one of the toughest challenges in life during high school. It wasn’t so much that it was terrible, or all the teachers were horrible; it just presented challenges that the mind genuinely did not want to handle. Even numbers are beautiful! I gradually appreciated the usefulness of odd numbers until I met prime numbers. Does anyone remember being asked to find…
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Mum didn’t know 3
As a child, I really didn’t look forward to being a teenager. When I finally turned thirteen, I told myself over and over that I wasn’t as smart as I thought. This was because I had heard about and seen so many naughty teenagers and I really didn’t want to be like them. Most of them did things their parents would never dream they were doing, but I really wanted to have an open relationship with my mum particularly. It was really cool to be sent off to boarding school, where I was technically ‘safe’ from certain issues. There were all kinds of girls in this ‘safe zone’ and without…
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After the Wedding
I do not know if you have had the experience of hearing these four words “I am your husband!” I smile thinking about the few guys who introduced themselves to me in this way during my single days. It was enough for me to walk away laughing. However, this little statement has had a different effect on me since I said ‘I DO’.Marriage is good – it really is, and I’ll defend and support getting married to the right person any day and anytime. However, God in His infinite wisdom has decided that we would not come to each other as perfect beings, but work together to achieve perfection in…
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After Valentine’s Day 2
I still remember the first Valentine cantered conversation I overheard .It was in a class in an A-level schooI attended in preparation for the university admission. So these two guys were talking about how the day went. One of them mentioned his girlfriend had come with a card and a present to wish him a happy day but he wanted something more and told her that ,if she really loved him, she should give him her body . I don’t know how my ears didn’t drop but having grown up all my life in church ,my immediate conclusion was that she was going to get pregnant .I was appalled especially…
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Entitled Sex
So last week, Gracilis was talking about sexual assault and attempted rape. Interestingly enough, none of the perpetrators were friends of the ladies and I sometimes wonder how perpetrators get to that sense of entitlement. I could fully empathize with the writers and glad that Gracilis had a narrow escape . It made me remember when I had to stay over at a friend’s place some years ago. This friend was not in town and allowed me to stay over for a few days. As I got into the room, thanking God for a safe journey and unpacking my bags, I heard a neighbouring female moaning in the bliss of…
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Convictions & Convincing
The year is gradually coming to an end and being alive in itself is one miracle we can all be grateful for. Recently I have noticed an increase in the number of videos where a public marriage proposals are made. Unfortunately, most of these recorded proposals received a negative answer.Some people might argue that these are all done for clout and although the reasons may vary, it is interesting to see people these days reject a marriage proposal especially knowing fully well that they are being filmed. And then the question goes on to why the proposal was made in public especially f the supposed partner was not sure the…
