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She is “Silver”
The idea that there may be another significant woman in a husband’s life can be very threatening to a wife. We battle enough with mothers-in-law and special Aunties and even some godmothers; so to include the added burden of a devious other somebody is a pretty big deal. I prayed concerning this area before I got into marriage as I know that I lack the energy to fight for any man. Why should I have to? I told God I wanted what was mine and not another person’s property. God gave me ‘my own man’, but from the first month of our marriage, I had competition. Silver had known…
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That “other” woman 4
The instinct of the danger of the other woman is one that most women can identify with as far back as their childhood days. When it comes to being mistaken for the other woman, it can come in so many forms, sometimes from strangers who actually are acting in sympathy to the woman of the house and as such have tagged you a traitor who deserves some form of punishment. A University classmate of mine recounted recently how she went to the bank one day dressed up as usual (to give you a little picture, when we were in school, this babe was always dressed to the kill, on…
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That “other” Woman 3
Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ….It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right. There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck. It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family. Having anyone on the side to him is…
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That “other” Woman 2
I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old. I am talking practically daily… yeah, right? I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now. I took marriage and children to be a given. It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it? Backed up by my dad’s, ‘work hard, pass Maths and English especially, go to the University, then get…
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That “other ” Woman
We hate the other woman. Usually, we do not even know that she exists. Somewhere deep down inside we wonder because society has told us since we were children that all men cheat. All men cheat. This singular notion is probably responsible for the breakdown of most relationships. Both men and women hear this and it plays out differently for both sexes. For the man, it is a ready justification not to fight unfaithfulness. A ready excuse that exempts him from culpability because apparently his nature is prone to adultery. For the woman it is a complex mix of distrust, feelings of inadequacy and guilt. Yes, guilt. Somehow…
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So,I confessed…
Confessions of infidelity come in different forms and types. Social media has also made some confessions that were meant to be private to become public. Although one would expect that before a confession goes public, the individuals involved would have known already. But there are circumstances where before the culprit has the chance to make a confession, the events have been made public. This of course makes the confession or reconciliation process to be more arduous. But no matter how the confession comes out, at one point or the other, we must come to deal with the aftermaths of a Confession. It is important to respond to a confession appropriately…
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Making the Confession
Her husband had taken his bath. She watched him dress up and when he attempted to leave, she reminded him that their Pastor had promised to visit He acknowledged her but promised to be back as soon as possible. He had barely left the house when the doorbell rang. She welcomed their Pastor and began profusely apologizing for her husband’s absence but he interrupted her by saying she was actually the one he wanted to see. Her Pastor took his seat and then began to talk. She had had a few doubts about her husband but did not expect this was how she would be informed about a stepchild. She…
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I wish someone told me
Her hair. That was the first thing I noticed. Beautifully twisted locks – smaller than the usual size. She must have had those kinky twists done recently. They were held together with a simple black hair ruffle at the nape of her neck, leaving her face exposed, except for her eyes, which were slightly shielded by her petite glasses. Her skin was fair; fairer than the average African, slightly fairer than mine. She was wearing a blue khaki dress which stopped just above her knees, giving ample view to her recently shaven legs. Simple white trainers finished the look. She looked good. Probably in her mid-twenties I would say –…
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The Knowing
There comes a time in life when you feel stagnant in your position. This may be in your job, your education, your business, even your role in your family at times! It’s actually scary when you have to ask yourself “What have I learnt lately?’ Lately, I’ve been thinking about my relationships. I don’t know why but I’ve been feeling a bit irrelevant in my relationships with my friends. Now, I have only a select few I call my friends, and I’ve been feeling rather inactive towards them. I’ve just been in a weird place where it’s like my friends are always “giving” to me and all I do is…
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Another Woman?Fight the right battle! 2
Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ……It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right. There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck. It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family. Having anyone on the side to him is…
