• Attitude,  Borrowing,  Finances

    Do the Maths

    I had a casual attitude to borrowing growing up.  I remember my youngest sister looking at me one day and saying ‘How can you sleep well at night knowing you have borrowed so much?’  She just could not live like that.  That is inter-sibling borrowing never mind going outside the family.  Occurs to me now that people have different leanings naturally.  To be fair, she is still like that.  I remember begging her to collect a credit card about 1 year ago.  I was encouraging her to seize the opportunity of being offered one to do shopping after which she could give herself years to pay off gradually.  She refused…

  • Attitude,  Finances,  Introspection

    Hakuna Matata

    2019 was a year that started in the basket of euphoria, filled with so many dreams and aspirations from business expansion to career advancement, etc. I am someone who personally loves to strategize and figure out things way in advance of realization. I am someone who believes so much in principles and formulas in the sense that you’ve got to have all structures to guarantee success. While I had all that in mind, little did I know that God’s plan for me would be a year of shaking, pruning and training of total reliance on him. Following the personal loss, I faced in 2017 and the struggles of 2018, I…

  • Career,  Finances,  Introspection

    Turning Points

    “Happy New Year!!!” Over and over we give and receive this greeting in the course of a year, particularly at the beginning. With a new year comes renewed hope, fresh determination and a sincere quest for higher heights and deeper seas. Our latter just has to be better than yesterday. I started 2019 by considering the things I had at hand and thanking God for the opportunity of a new year.  I had a very infrequent source of income(which was one up from the previous year), I had my family and my health, and I had hope that by December, I would look back on the year and be thankful…

  • Abuse,  Family,  Finances

    When Love Stings

    When I first got married, I was a stay at home mum although not by choice. This position made me vulnerable and although I did not suffer any physical violence,  I was subject to emotional and financial abuse. And there was hardly anything I could do because I did not have any source of income. My husband took care of the feeding in the house but he never wanted to spend a dime on me especially for my personal grooming.  That was not his cup of tea. He always made it sound like I was a burden on him. I adjusted and made sure I never asked him for money…

  • Finances

    From Now – Till Then

    Dear Amrita, Happy Birthday to you – future me!!! Yep it’s a brand-new year for you and I hope you have had a lot of excitement in the past 10 years. Yes, this is Amrita from ten years ago.   What’s the world like these days?  I hope it is not too weird reading from your past self.  I’m writing down some goals for this year and the next ten years, so I wanted to have something to remind me of what I’ve written. Let me remind you about where things stand for me at present.  I had a really good education and I completed my Masters over 5yrs ago (that…

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    Finances

    Money Talks

    When I was growing up, my Dad ran a very successful business and Mum worked at home; okay I would have said a stay-at-home Mum, but I have never been comfortable using that phrase to describe Mum because it somewhat has a way of conjuring a mental picture of a woman who is home all day doing nothing or watching TV – well just throw in a few chores. Okay back to Mum. The phrase just doesn’t suit her. She had nine kids to bring up, two or more extended family per time living with her, and several others dropping in to visit, or spend a few days or weeks…

  • Family,  Finances

    Show me the money

    I don’t know about you, but I’ve never thought of myself as one to waste money. I mean, I’m a self proclaimed bargain hunter. But when does it stop being about spending wisely, and starts being about trying to stop yourself from buying everything you don’t need? Any one else know what I mean?  The problem is I find those “sale” prices. EVERY TIME! And then I end up feeling pressured, by myself no less, into buying everything. Towards the end of 2018, I realized something had to change. Because I had new responsibilities, like paying rent for the house I’d just moved in to, I ended up being more…

  • Family,  Finances

    Go and ask your Father!

    I enjoyed the car ride to our shopping destinations and loved window shopping, I just did not understand why mum was sometimes grumpy whilst shopping.  Most of the time she did not want you tagging along but at the slightest opportunity, we would happily grab our shoes and sit in the front seat of the car looking out of the window and dreaming about being able to go out by ourselves. The only time you were allowed to chip in is when you go out Christmas clothes shopping.  “Which colour do you prefer”?  At many stops she would say ‘wait for me in the car’, there was one year we waited…

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