• Attitude,  By Gracillis,  Single Life,  Timeless Stories

    “The Perfect Picture” reloaded

    One of the signs of a good book is the ability to enjoy it over and over again .  Some  of our artiles have been voted as most read and mostloved and some readers have suggested we put those  articles in a categor  “Timeless stories” and periodically publish them again. The article below is one of them which I believe is great for us to reread especially as  we are  almost 2 weeks away fro m Christmas .Enjoy I recently started a new job and am still in the process of knowing everybody. It is almost two weeks now but I still seem to be meeting new people daily. Just…

  • Attitude,  By Gracilis,  Mother's Day,  Single Life,  Timeless Stories

    Above 40 , single and childless

    That is not my portion. Absolutely. I do agree  with you  I mean that is what I would have said to this topic about two decades ago but as one of my former classmates would say “whose portion is it ?” Today is Mother’s Day(US version) and we will all agree it has come with a difference.  However, the Coronavirus should not stop us from celebrating and appreciating our mothers and a big shout out to those who have already done so. This year, rather than the several celebrations and dining out that would have occurred or the recitals and performances that would have been done by several children, we…

  • Abuse,  By Gracilis,  Finances,  Timeless Stories

    When Love is a Lie 3

    I listened on the conversation  as my friend’s(Slyvia) voice changed from excitement to one of sarcasm .I knew she was no longer speaking to her  elder sister(Jane) but her brother in-law (Pastor Daniel).Sylvia  as well as her other siblings resented Pastor D  for crippling their sister who was now the sole provider in her home. When Jane initially married Daniel about seventeen years ago, they  both worked in the same organization .However a change in their company policy required all staff to have a degree or work towards obtaining one. Jane ,being more educated was unaffected while her husband who  only  had a Diploma  stopped work, refused to further his…

  • Abuse,  Love,  Marriage,  Timeless Stories

    Love is NOT enough

    If LOVE was what kept a marriage, then mine would have outshone eternity. I loved my husband and even the devil could testify to that. I had dreams for my home right from the time I was a child. Like almost every woman, I dreamt about the big day and the many happy loving years after that I had read about  in those girly novels. My husband(let’s call him Eugene) and I  met back in my home country and started a relationship which did not materialize, shortly after which he left the country. Not long after he relocated, I did also and we renewed contact. I had the right legal…

  • Abuse,  By Gracilis,  sex,  Timeless Stories

    Red Light

    Just this evening when I decided to do my evening duties of writing, I came across the news that it appears  BBC Radio 2  has decided to ban the songs of one of the music legends of our time because of the allegations of child sex abuse. I am not taking sides and checking the veracity of these accusations but would love to say that sometimes these things happen much more than we realize.  The word “child” could actually be figurative and in a religious context, some adults could be seen as children when compared to their leaders. Unfortunately, people sometimes abuse their spiritual position and just like Folake showed…

  • Friendship,  Relationship skills,  Timeless Stories

    Letting it go

    Learning to let go comes to us all as we grow older. The better you are at letting go the more at peace you will be with yourself and the more time you will have to yourself for your self to figure out the person you need to be and to appreciate the people God brings your way who genuinely want to walk this way called life with you. Some relationships are meant to be lifelong like the relationship between husband and wife, children and parents, siblings etc our family ties. Those relationships are worth fighting for, keep on keeping on. as long as it depends on you. The thing…

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Timeless Stories

    Garbage in, Garbage out

      Attending a boarding school is one of the very life experiences I am eternally grateful that I had the opportunity of having. In short most of my siblings did . One of the great advantages of being a boarder was the fact that you learnt how to live communally, we ate the same food at the same time, woke up , worked and slept at the same time. Unlike the day students who left the show at 2pm, the borders had 24 hours to each other, leaving there to be no room for pretense It meant that there could be drama and drama in the very sense of the…

  • By Gracilis,  In-Laws,  Timeless Stories

    The Good, the Bad & the Ugly

      Classifying things into groups is a well  known method for enhancing memorization and   this can be extended to people including our in-laws. The word “in-law” can instantly produce many memories depending on the various types. While I would not say that we are to be held responsible for their actions, some of their behavior to us are actually reactions to our words and actions.   Using the title above, the “good” in-laws as those who have thankfully accepted you as family with no obvious separation between you and the other family members. What is good for the goose is good for the gander and as such ,you are not…

  • In-Laws,  Marriage,  Timeless Stories

    The Big School

    There’s too much drama with the in-laws (at least in my head).  It needs to stop.  I have realised that I tend to bitch a lot about two groups of people; the people I love the most (hubby, siblings, parents, old school friends who have turned siblings – even if they don’t know this) and the people whose love and acceptance I crave (in laws, would be friends).  For category 1; I am not sure why but I expect them to fit into a mould created by me perfectly and I mean PERFECTLY.  For category 2; I expect them to love me and accept me unconditionally notwithstanding any failings or differences.  They should think I…

  • Career,  Timeless Stories

    Made for More….

    I had looked forward to being a wife so much so that it seemed being one was an end in itself.  I never really saw myself as anything more than a working wife and mother.  Somewhere along the way, I put a glass ceiling on any type of ambition and fulfilling my personal dreams which are not linked to anyone else.  I stopped dreaming full stop.  It was as if I no longer existed.  There were a few false attempts but I seemed to always chug to a stop content to continue the daily cycle of work and house chores. If I had not married when I did, I would…

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