• Racism & Rape,  sex,  Single Life

    Sexual Entitlement

    I wonder if you read the posts from the past two Fridays talking about sexual assault and attempted rape. Interestingly enough, none of the perpetrators were friends of the ladies and I sometimes wonder how perpetrators get to that sense of entitlement. I could fully empathize with the writers and glad that Gracilis had a narrow escape . It made me remember when  I had to stay over at a friend’s place last year. This friend was not in town and allowed me to stay over for a few days.  As I got into the room, thanking God for a safe journey and unpacking my bags, I heard a neighbouring…

  • By Gracilis,  Racism & Rape,  Single Life

    Narrow Escape

    I lived on campus . It was my first year as an undergraduate and my elder ones insisted that staying on campus was what every first year student should do . It would help me get a hang of what was really going on .  I am not sure if I really knew what was really going on but I saw things . After two years  of living on campus, I moved to an off-campus accommodation . It was a  little village that was fortunate to be close to the university . The streets hardly had any names and student houses were best identified by names. Some names were popular…

  • Abuse,  Racism & Rape,  sex

    Sexual assault & Consent

    Today delivers a heavy topic but a particularly important one. It goes without saying (but must be very clearly stated) that sexual assault is only ever caused by one person, the perpetrator. FULLSTOP!!! I believe that sex is a beautiful gift that was meant to be enjoyed by a man and woman who are united in holy matrimony and have consented to the act at that particular point in time. Obviously, sex takes place in other settings as well and it is important to acknowledge that. Like every good thing in this world, people misuse this gift in sadistic, disgusting ways. I wonder how God must feel when he sees…

  • Racism & Rape

    Beyond the Mantra…

    I grew up in a black society where there were sprinkles of white and mixed-race people. The general feeling was that of respect for the whites and mixed-raced individuals. They had their bubbles and from the way they looked after their environment etc they were generally regarded as pillars of the communities where they were located.  It’s the way they do what they do.   I grew up seeing them put their money where their mouths were.  They seemed to be people who lived out their convictions accordingly. Many whites have impacted my life; my primary school head teacher was such a beautiful fashionista.  Secondary school teachers gave up their very many comforts for a higher cause and were missionaries.  My dad’s MD of blessed memory…

  • Racism & Rape

    Be the change

    I want to share some of my experiences as a black woman in the UK. I love the United Kingdom and I’m grateful for all the opportunities and experiences I’ve had in my time here. I’m also grateful and thankful for the majority of people who have shown me love in this great country and have accepted me as I am. So what I’m about to share is not to bring shame to this great country but to encourage the culture were we can openly talk about our experiences to bring about and facilitate change. I can’t claim to have experienced the magnitude of what we see going on in…

  • Racism & Rape

    Racism & Change

    Over the past few weeks, we have all noticed the divergence from the coronavirus pandemic to the George Floyd racism Protest. For those of us who watched the George Floyd Murder video, I am very sure it resonated so much pain, anguish, and bitterness within us.  The first thing that came to mind for me was the quest of the possibility of how such heinous act could occur in 2020. Secondly, I was appalled that there are people out there whose consciences has been seared with evil as I kept wondering why the police officer could not have an iota of human sympathy. As I lay on my bed reminiscing…

  • Racism & Rape

    I can’t breathe

    I came across a comment about how people are “jumping on the bandwagon” in the UK for racism in America. I understand how it may be difficult to see the need to speak up for what you stand for, in a society where racism is mostly covert. However, the danger is that continued silence has encouraged behaviour that has slowly chipped away recognition of the value and dignity of black people within society. The truth is that many black migrants are not even aware of various racial connotations in their everyday interactions. Sometimes even when we are aware, as long as it does not interfere with our daily bread, we…

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