• Attitude,  Family,  Relationship skills

    I messed up

    Stories about an ‘Ex’ can seem juicy when you walked away with the better deal; but not so much when you are the one who got dumped or dupped. Being an ‘Ex’ anything, still associates you with that thing, implying it is a part of your story, even though it is no longer a part of you.  I guess that is why an Ex-Con will still struggle with employment, or an Ex-addict is still advised to stay away from whatever he/she was addicted to.  Even an Ex-President still enjoys certain presidential benefits.  The status is in the past, but its scent somehow lingers in the present, whether good or bad……

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Romance,  Single Life

    When it ends

    O girl, I’m sorry Your;re not my kind of girl … O girl, I’m sorry You’re  not my kind of girl … You’re Not My Kind of Girl  New Edition I am not sure if you remember the chorus of  this hit  “You are Not my kind of girl”  by New Edition  but it was one of those songs that was so good to dance to but not be told. When it comes to the matter of love, no one likes to be rebuffed. And love songs in general are one of the most sang songs because many people can relate. Whether it is about new love, lost love ,…

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Single Life

    Honourable Ex-es

    Being in love is one of the greatest things that can happen to anyone and it can either bring out the best or the worst in us. Well we do not usually see the latter unless sometimes the whole love thing goes the wrong way. And there are several reasons why love could go the wrong way and all the declarations of love turn sour. Two years ago during the pandemic. the forced Lockdown was cited as one of the causes for some breakups recently and no matter how much both parties will agree to the necessity of a breakup, one person is bound to be hit more emotionally and…

  • Love,  Relationship skills

    Dramatic Ex

      I was at a shopping mall with my wife. After picking some items, we moved to the checkout queue to pay for them. There, on the queue, a lady directly ahead of us turned around. Our eyes locked. I froze. It was my ex. Immediately, her expression changed. It became less than friendly. In the very awkward moment, I was somehow able to mumble a “hello”. I anticipated a similar response from her. I was disappointed. Instead, she took a brief condescending look at me, and then at my wife. After which, she turned around and moved forward on the queue to replace the person in front of her.…

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Romance

    Romantic Neighbours

    One of the advantages of living in the neighbourhood and having neighbours, is the tendency to be seen. The chances that we could strike a conversation that could lead to something special is always there.  Sometimes our neighbours want something more and we are not interested. Well, I think it is always very good to define the relationship from the very beginning and I dare say that romance in the neighbourhood also has its rules of engagement like romance in the workplace. So shortly after I arrived and settled in the United Kingdom, I was faced with the challenge of accommodation.  One of my former housemates got married and by…

  • Attitude,  Family,  Relationship skills

    Neighbourly tips

    Troublesome neighbours are a reality of life and are not restricted to certain climes.  Sometime ago I was asking my brother if he had received a parcel I  had sent for  his children and somehow our conversation shifted  to his neighbours. You see depending on the area you live in  sometimes, it might be possible for your neighbours to collect from the postman a parcel of yours in your absence. This would save you the trouble of going to the delivery office to pick up the parcel.   So I was enquiring if his neighbours did this for each other and he explained that his neighbours were not on  talking…

  • Parenting,  Relationship skills,  Resolutions/Change

    Digressive Neighbours

     I looked at the topic for this month and wondered which story will be adequate to share. In short it seemed I had  a lot of stories and have had my share of living with other people. But just as I was about to   write, saying to myself “yes I have had troublesome neighbours”, it oc dawned on  tme that I may perhaps have been a troublesome neighbour 😳. Well. I would rather say , may have been perceived to be a troublesome neighbour. Being a troublesome neighbour is something we may not have set out doing .neither do we look for houses desiring to have troublesome neighbours. But…

  • Introspection,  Relationship skills

    Mirror mirror

    You are welcome indeed to another year with us and am sure you are looking forward to reading our posts this year. I must say that it is indeed a time of sober reflection for us here as a team and we are truly amazed and humbled at how our writings over the years have changed perspectives and helped not only our relationships but the relationships of others. I remember reading the story of a lady who always watched her neighbour from her house. She used to see the woman very clearly but noticed as the days went by, her vision of her neighbour was getting blurred. She wondered why…

  • Attitude,  By Gracilis,  Relationship skills

    Sincerely wrong

    We.have come to that season of the year when there is a lot of excitement, love and exchange of gifts. Compared to other holidays, this is one that most people cast out all restrain as they seek to enjoy themselves with the much readily available food. I can still remember as a child on Christmas day I would go visiting in several places and after sometime, stop to count the proceeds of my visitation.😜 Christmas day meant eating jollof rice  and chicken and there was no rice like Christmas rice, hence it is called by the customizer name “Christmas rice “. As for the chicken, it was one thing I…

  • Attitude,  Friendship,  Relationship skills

    Making Enemies & Emotional Intelligence

    Someone bought a car and another friend was congratulating them on social media and the following conversation ensued Friend A – Congratulations girl, Soar on, More and more big wins Friend B –Why do we celebrate liabilities in this part of the world.Especially very  costly liabilities  A car is just a tool  to move from point A to point B  . Yet we celebrate like we have achieved something great . Let’s stop this culture… Its not healthy To which friend A replied;” Is it your liability ? Abeg when you acquire your own liabilities , please MOURN them . Thank you It made me laugh but got me thinking…

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