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I choose Gratitude 2
When I was twenty-one(don’t ask me when) ,I believe I had a birthday party .I received lots of cards but very few gifts.I am not really sure about the gifts but I remember one clearly.It was a plaque that was glass framed with a philosophical thought.I thnk I expected something more and I feel ashamed when I remember that the giver of the gift actually asked me if I saw the gift. I have long repented and cannot imagine something like that ever happening to me .As I have grown older, I have learnt the importance of being appreciative and doing so quickly and willingly,as I had been taught at…
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Choose wisely
Whenever we get to the last month of the year, there are two temptations that normally take place and I must confess that I sometimes fall into them . There is this temptation to complain about the things we think we should have happened or had and then see it as an excuse to whine. This usually is the default position for most people and then there is the temptation to take the things we have and have received for granted. Both of these usually lead us to a point where we fail to truly see the value of all we have received and enjoyed, sometimes without even having to…
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As you like it
This month is the month where we celebrate the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women and decided we would give this month to talking about abuse and healthy relationships. Relationships can either mar or make us and the more intimate the relationship, the higher the stakes. But one of the problems of relationships is that we all come with what we want , may know exactly how we want it and then fall into the delusion that our significant other or friends will also know and that usually causes trouble. I will recount an incident that happened sometime ago to illustrate this . So I usually give…
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Journey to the altar
Diary Excerpt 1: It really isn’t that easy, although everybody says it is. This is getting too tricky for my liking. Nothing could have prepared me for this but the pressure is serious. Big sis always says don’t make your husband despise your family and don’t make your family despise your husband. Really tricky!! I assumed that since dad is clergy and a really good marriage counsellor, my case should be pretty straight forward. I forgot this would be new territory to him and his reactions are so foreign to me. I don’t know this guy, cos this ain’t my Daddy! Diary Excerpt 2: I haven’t written in a long while because a part of me doesn’t want…
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keeping at it
We indeed learn a lot from our children and Unyeme shows from this lesson the need to keep at it,consistently working on our relationships.Enjoy….. I walked past my son’s room and almost stopped breathing. It was SCATTERED 🤦🤦🤦. Being a true African mother 😁, I started talking (shouting). He stood up and started tiding it. I jejely left him. Something brought me back. It was in the same state minus the clothes he removed from the chair when I was shouting. I asked him “so you just left stopped cleaning immediately I left? “”. Yes, you guessed it, he started laughing. Today’s reflection is simple as usual. Aren’t we all…
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The Hearing Ear
I love the church. I love being a part of a church family. Life in church can be as dramatic as any biological family, but the added undertone of ‘we are all in Christ’ makes us come together in such a unique way… sometimes. As young children growing up in a home, beginning a statement with “Daddy said…” or “Mummy says…” can usually get you your hearts’ desire. In the church, phrases like “God said I should let you know…”, “I sense the Spirit saying…”, or “God told me…” are very potent and can make or break situations. I have nothing against these phrases and I have used them on…
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Church Drama 3
I do not think it is possible to attend a church and not have encountered a drama generated as a result of food. In short, even when we read the story about the beginnings of the church, the first thing that caused trouble was food and its distribution. Growing up, I went to a church who took food seriously and any time we did anything, there was always food. This was especially pronounced on harvest Sundays /All manner of food was present in abundance and even to take home. The good thing about the church I attended before my first decade ended was that my mum was the “mother of…
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Church Drama 2
So today I was wondering which of the stories I should recount I think the best way is to continue chronologically so here we go Growing up in a local assembly church meant growing up in a church family where everyone knew your family.it also meant you knew other people and church family was really part of our lives then .What could be dangerous sometimes is befriending some people who happened to know everyone with their secrets. I remember going to church for all night prayers at about 9pm and having to sleep on the benches (before we bought white plastic chairs) as we waited for 12 midnight to start…
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I messed up
Stories about an ‘Ex’ can seem juicy when you walked away with the better deal; but not so much when you are the one who got dumped or dupped. Being an ‘Ex’ anything, still associates you with that thing, implying it is a part of your story, even though it is no longer a part of you. I guess that is why an Ex-Con will still struggle with employment, or an Ex-addict is still advised to stay away from whatever he/she was addicted to. Even an Ex-President still enjoys certain presidential benefits. The status is in the past, but its scent somehow lingers in the present, whether good or bad……
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When it ends
O girl, I’m sorry Your;re not my kind of girl … O girl, I’m sorry You’re not my kind of girl … You’re Not My Kind of Girl New Edition I am not sure if you remember the chorus of this hit “You are Not my kind of girl” by New Edition but it was one of those songs that was so good to dance to but not be told. When it comes to the matter of love, no one likes to be rebuffed. And love songs in general are one of the most sang songs because many people can relate. Whether it is about new love, lost love ,…
