• Attitude,  Friendship,  Resolutions/Change

    Friends as Neighbours ?

    Hmmm, where do I start? In reality, we have neighbours from the moment we are born.  We don’t call our family ‘neighbours’ but living with fellow humans in any proximity is the beginning of the neighbourly experience.  If we discount family, then for some of us, our first ‘housemate’ experience might have been boarding school i.e., during secondary education, or at the University.  In my boarding school, we were approximately forty students between the ages of ten and seventeen, in a massive room.  You had a bunkmate, as the beds were 6-spring Iron bunkbeds, and you had 2 or more side mates, depending on which corner you got.  While boarding…

  • Parenting,  Relationship skills,  Resolutions/Change

    Digressive Neighbours

     I looked at the topic for this month and wondered which story will be adequate to share. In short it seemed I had  a lot of stories and have had my share of living with other people. But just as I was about to   write, saying to myself “yes I have had troublesome neighbours”, it oc dawned on  tme that I may perhaps have been a troublesome neighbour 😳. Well. I would rather say , may have been perceived to be a troublesome neighbour. Being a troublesome neighbour is something we may not have set out doing .neither do we look for houses desiring to have troublesome neighbours. But…

  • Attitude,  Introspection,  Resolutions/Change

    Be Prepared

    …5,4,3,2,1, Happy New Year!!!!” That’s the way some people like to begin the new year; watching the minutes right down to the final seconds of the old, and then a sigh of relief and jubilee – we made it into the New Year! I was dancing around in church at the time like many others do. However you chose to enter this year, I hope you had a wonderful transition.  Now we are here, with our goals and resolutions, we have to get busy and make something of the time we have. I know someone who started the year 2020 with such excitement and anticipation of a new decade, when one…

  • Chronicles of Corona Virus,  Resolutions/Change

    A Pandemic Watershed

    It is exactly a year ago when the Prime minister uttered those unforgettable words, ‘You must stay at home.’  Little did I know that that instruction was going to signal a cascade of events that would make our lives simply unrecognisable. As a family we pondered over what Lock down was going to look like for us. My wife, Nneka, was up in arms against the idea of staying at home. Going to work was an escape for her, and I don’t mean it in a bad way. We all need our ‘me time’ and she found hers on her daily train commute to and from work. Our high school…

  • Love,  Resolutions/Change

    Don’t Cheat yourself

    I struggled to come up with an idea for this article as ‘cheating’ is not a topic that crosses my path often.  The word is very uncommon in my circle and the experience is hardly mentioned; either by the cheater or the person being cheated.  I also feel like this topic has been addressed on so many levels that I couldn’t think of what I could possibly say that might throw some new light on the matter.  Then a friend rang me this week to rant about his niece who had just committed suicide over an argument with her boyfriend. Listening to the story, we were both angry at this young woman who…

  • Attitude,  Resolutions/Change

    Grateful Beginnings

    Every now and again, we come across certain tweets and posts that turn viral for various reasons. In my humble opinion, I have discovered that most posts become viral because they seem to strike a chord with many readers. People are more likely to forward on something they find interesting, funny, inspiring, pathetic or simply annoying. I for one, enjoy looking at several posts, as a way of relaxation and learning   because most times, even after laughing, I find my analytic mind over processing things and bringing up more writing ideas. So, some Decembers ago, there was this tweet where someone was lamenting about her/his single status. You may have come…

  • Attitude,  Resolutions/Change

    One step at a time

    One of the things about the New Year is there is a certain hope and contagious expectation with which most people   start a year. Somehow there is a new surge of faith that says that the life that has been afforded is a divine sign that there is going to be change for the better in the future. With this new surge, several people start out with New Year resolutions that sadly do not last the first week of the year. I cannot say if the year 2021 had as much excitement of the newness that previous years have enjoyed because it seemed like several people were afraid to hope…

  • Resolutions/Change

    Starting over right

    After the year we have just been through, sitting down to write the usual New Year’s resolutions may be daunting. One of the quotes that have stayed with me since 1998 is by Matthew Ashimolowo – he may be the originator ‘Unless you leave this shore, you will not find another harbour’.  The key issue for me is that I am not a quitter, I don’t like to admit defeat, I stick at things until I get to the prize, doggedly determined.  Then the time came when I felt pressed enough to leave my job…. I had heard it said and read in the papers that having a baby negatively…

  • Introspection,  Resolutions/Change

    In the beginning

    ♥And so we are the start of a year that so many of us could not wait to arrive.  While a lot of people wished 2020 to be over and done with, there were quite a few others who were of a different opinion because of how the year had turned out for them. There was one viral picture of a lady (why was it a lady) and travelling suitcases with the caption that she was not counting 2020 to her years as she did not use it. The laughter It produced was seemingly contagious, although for me, when the dust of the initial humour settled, I was left with…

  • Resolutions/Change

    Lessons from Yesterday

    You’ll have to forgive our repetition, but I can not stop thanking God for the privilege of making it to December in this year 2020. I’ve been on this planet for a little under four decades and I can boldly say that this was a year like no other. Personally, I experienced a lot of battles in the mind; thoughts about how I would cope with the sudden changes that occurred, and how I would re-invent myself so as to remain relevant in the different spheres of my life.  I got the chance to finally birth some ideas that had been brewing for a while, and even though the pace…

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