• Romance,  Single Life

    Enough light

    There comes a time in the life of most women, when you tell yourself ‘This is it. I choose him’or ‘I accept him’, depending on how many proposals you get.  I wondered for many years how I would know the right choice to make. How do I choose one above all else, who is not Jesus?  People had asked me in the past, ‘What will he do, to prove he is ‘the one’?”  I really didn’t know the answer to that question and I told God not to tell me, but to show me, when the time was right. A friend gave me a message by a wonderful woman called…

  • By Gracilis,  Friendship,  Marriage,  sex,  Single Life

    Bedroom Friends

    Most single people think that most married people are having sex all the time. But a realistic view into the bedrooms of so many married couples, we would discover the contrary. Apart from the sad reality of those facing the “Dead Bedroom Syndrome” where sex is no more an agenda in their marriage (a painful extreme), a healthy dose of married people do a lot more than sex in the bedroom. A lot of their time is spent talking and hopefully communicating and building on the friendship they cultivated that eventually led to the altar. But one of the most frequent complaints I hear from some ladies is the fact…

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Romance,  Single Life

    When it ends

    O girl, I’m sorry Your;re not my kind of girl … O girl, I’m sorry You’re  not my kind of girl … You’re Not My Kind of Girl  New Edition I am not sure if you remember the chorus of  this hit  “You are Not my kind of girl”  by New Edition  but it was one of those songs that was so good to dance to but not be told. When it comes to the matter of love, no one likes to be rebuffed. And love songs in general are one of the most sang songs because many people can relate. Whether it is about new love, lost love ,…

  • By Gracilis,  Relationship skills,  Single Life

    Honourable Ex-es

    Being in love is one of the greatest things that can happen to anyone and it can either bring out the best or the worst in us. Well we do not usually see the latter unless sometimes the whole love thing goes the wrong way. And there are several reasons why love could go the wrong way and all the declarations of love turn sour. Two years ago during the pandemic. the forced Lockdown was cited as one of the causes for some breakups recently and no matter how much both parties will agree to the necessity of a breakup, one person is bound to be hit more emotionally and…

  • Attitude,  By Gracillis,  Single Life,  Timeless Stories

    “The Perfect Picture” reloaded

    One of the signs of a good book is the ability to enjoy it over and over again .  Some  of our artiles have been voted as most read and mostloved and some readers have suggested we put those  articles in a categor  “Timeless stories” and periodically publish them again. The article below is one of them which I believe is great for us to reread especially as  we are  almost 2 weeks away fro m Christmas .Enjoy I recently started a new job and am still in the process of knowing everybody. It is almost two weeks now but I still seem to be meeting new people daily. Just…

  • Racism & Rape,  sex,  Single Life

    Sexual Entitlement

    I wonder if you read the posts from the past two Fridays talking about sexual assault and attempted rape. Interestingly enough, none of the perpetrators were friends of the ladies and I sometimes wonder how perpetrators get to that sense of entitlement. I could fully empathize with the writers and glad that Gracilis had a narrow escape . It made me remember when  I had to stay over at a friend’s place last year. This friend was not in town and allowed me to stay over for a few days.  As I got into the room, thanking God for a safe journey and unpacking my bags, I heard a neighbouring…

  • By Gracilis,  Racism & Rape,  Single Life

    Narrow Escape

    I lived on campus . It was my first year as an undergraduate and my elder ones insisted that staying on campus was what every first year student should do . It would help me get a hang of what was really going on .  I am not sure if I really knew what was really going on but I saw things . After two years  of living on campus, I moved to an off-campus accommodation . It was a  little village that was fortunate to be close to the university . The streets hardly had any names and student houses were best identified by names. Some names were popular…

  • Attitude,  By Gracilis,  Single Life

    Special Nothings

    There was a time when getting married on one’s birthday was in vogue So I was quite surprised when , one of my close friend’s sister said she was not going to get married on her birthday just in case the marriage did not work. She actually said that the wedding  would be done on the man’s birthday so that if they ever parted ways., he will always have to remember on his birthday . At that time, I could not totally understand why someone would be entertaining such thoughts but as the years have gone by, and I have seen more divorces and separation, my heart has tended to…

  • Marriage,  Single Life,  Unfaithfulness

    So,I confessed…

    Confessions of infidelity come in different forms and types. Social media has also made some confessions that were meant to be private to become public. Although one would expect   that before a confession goes public, the individuals involved would have known already. But there are circumstances where before the culprit has the chance to make a confession, the events have been made public. This of course makes the confession or reconciliation process to be more arduous. But no matter how the confession comes out, at one point or the other, we must come to deal with the aftermaths of a Confession. It  is important  to respond to a confession appropriately…

  • By Gracilis,  Marriage,  Single Life,  Unfaithfulness

    Making the Confession

    Her husband had taken his bath. She watched him dress up and when he attempted to leave, she reminded him that their Pastor had promised to visit He acknowledged her but promised to be back as soon as possible. He had barely left the house when the doorbell rang. She welcomed their Pastor and began profusely apologizing for her husband’s absence but he interrupted her by saying she was actually the one he wanted to see. Her Pastor took his seat and then began to talk. She had had a few doubts about her husband but did not expect this was how she would be informed about a stepchild. She…

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