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Rumours …the ugly side
Most of us have never made a ‘Things to do’ list that has ‘start a rumour ‘on it, but we sometimes find ourselves involved in one way or the other in the business and may eventually suffer from its distasteful aftertaste. While we were growing up, my family suddenly moved to a downside suburb,(forced eviction) and shortly after our relocation, we were visited by the men of the night. Luckily their activities were confined to the living room because of the.security of the connecting door to the bedrooms. When they eventually left, we discovered that both our coloured television box and video cassette player had been stolen(if you never used these,…
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Life happens…
There are two incidents that I recall when thinking of false expectation. The first took place during my early high school years. Boarding School was a place of adventure for me. Not many people will describe their experience of boarding school in West Africa with such words, but I really looked forward to going back to school every term. I had the annoying seniors and the ‘wannabe’ classmates, you know, the ones who just wanted to be everything they were not; but it was still a really cool period in my life. I was in Junior school (JSS3) at the time and a few people had recently learned of my…
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Let Go … Sometimes
There’s something we need to realise; we all have expectations of how we think the world should work. And the funny thing is, expectations have extremes like everything in life. Of course it’s good when we expect the earth to orbit the sun, because if not there will be chaos. It’s also good to have expectations in our relationships, because how else will we know if things are working or not? But today, I want us to focus on the other extreme. The times where our expectations are a little unrealistic and maybe borderline crazy. Ok, let’s jump in…. Sometimes, we expect people to only think of great things about…
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Nomophobia
Have you ever forgotten your mobile phone at home while on your way to work? Chances are that you might most likely return to get it. This may be for several reasons. I was listening to a marriage relationship seminar recently where the need for communication was being discussed. One of the speakers recounted that on one morning after her husband had left for work, she forgot her mobile phone at home when she went out for school runs. She returned only to find twenty-five missed calls from her husband! He was not monitoring her but was only worried because it was usual for her to tell him when she…
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Nomophobia
Have you ever forgotten your mobile phone at home while on your way to work? Chances are that you might most likely return to get it. This may be for several reasons. I was listening to a marriage relationship seminar recently where the need for communication was being discussed. One of the speakers recounted that on one morning after her husband had left for work, she forgot her mobile phone at home when she went out for school runs. She returned only to find twenty-five missed calls from her husband! He was not monitoring her but was only worried because it was usual for her to tell him when she…
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This March – #Me too
If the first time you had sex was on your wedding night (highly recommended and possible ) or perhaps at your own free will , you may appreciate to some extent what we are talking about this month. For some others, that experience is foreign and I dare say that the eleven-year-old girl who was raped and became pregnant by her grandmother’s partner in Argentina recently is another extreme of the spectrum and in between these two are several variations that is the experience of most people. The choice of giving yourself to someone by your own free will and because you felt it was necessary and part of an…
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Really Thinking
Whenever we read an autobiography, one of the things that is noticeable is that it is not the day to day activities of the people’s lives that are written down rather it is the significant events in their lives that we read about and the word significant in a good autobiography does not necessarily mean “good.” Sometimes events are unfolded and recounted, which may to a reader seem common or trivial however the significance of the events recorded is at the sole discretion of the author. And so coming to the last Friday of the year, I will not attempt to give a rundown commentary of the year…
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THANKS – a giving
It is already a few more weeks to the end of the year and the temptation to start winding down and postponing some of our dreams to the very next year is real. It seems safer and far less disappointing to dream that the issues we have will be resolved in another cycle of 365 days than in the next 24 days . Whenever we come to this time of the year also, it seems most of the articles we come across are focused on Thanksgiving which we very often begrudge as we participate But the general essence of Thanksgiving is not just another tick box exercise in our…
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The ODD one
I’ve thought of myself in many different scenarios over my few years on earth, but there are still some scenes I just can’t picture myself in. For example, I watched a documentary some weeks back which followed the stories of two women who didn’t know they were pregnant until they were sent to the delivery suite! And one of them had had a child previously!!! It looked impossible; how would you not know that you were pregnant for over 36 weeks? I remember one of the ladies saying she never dreamt something like this would happen to her, so it could happen to anyone – I instantly replied…
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Going Forward
Here we are , at the last quarter of the year and if you are like me, some of my thoughts are where did the year got. It wasnt long I was buying Christmas cards in January against a December which seemed so far away then . Getting into the last segment of the year has been quite overwhelming as one looks at the challenges encountered in the previous three quarters, If there was anything that made the last quarter quite memorable was the fact that it was a time of some sober reflections as the news of the departure of some people reached our ears. One of my friends…
