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Wisdom Of Compromise
“Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.” Jane Wells I came across this quote this past week and it kind of struck a cord with me. I mean on the surface it makes complete sense; you compromise a little and everyone is happy. But when we really think about it, what does compromise actually entail? I think we need to take a step and understand a few things before we can even think about compromising. Those things are preferences (a greater liking for an alternative over another) and prerequisites (core values that are the foundation).When we can differentiate between these…
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Unusual List
One of the vague phrases that has been flying around for weeks is “I can’t believe it is December already” . I am sometimes at a loss of what people really mean when they say this. Did the days just fly or is it a matter of regret over the year or a sigh of resignation of hope?It seems most times the latter is the case. For some the year went too quickly, for others, they really wished it had turned out differently while for yet another group, there actually has been no change and irrespective of the group you belong to ,as the year begins to wind down we all…
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Intercourse with artefacts
Every day at work is quite typical for me. Most times, I have to visit clients in their homes and so it was commonplace diary calling at the home of a guy we would call Tony. His house was a short drive from my office and having made a mental calculation of how many turns I needed to get there and current road diversions, I decided the services of the satnav would be necessary. Guided through a few turns by the lovely voice of the Sat nav lady,I eventually pulled into the drive of a white cottage house. I smiled to myself, impressed by the “typical” middle class house. Judging from the outside,I was not expecting it to be “really”…
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And To Assume
Last week, we got a little history lesson on the term ‘Making Love’. We found out that it originally meant “paying attention to someone romantically”. Today, I want to talk to us about the part of this most of us ignore, forget or don’t even realise exist. And that’s the side of assumption. To woo, flirt or romance someone might mean so very different things to people, depending on their motives. So many times we (especially us ladies), jump to conclusions just because someone approached us in a certain manner. “He gave me a lift home, so we must be dating now”. Yes I know that’s extreme, but I know…
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Another Woman?Fight the right battle! 2
Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ……It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right. There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck. It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family. Having anyone on the side to him is…
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Another woman?Fight the right battle!
I have been reading in the papers about Amir Khan’s wife’s public fall out with his family. I hope all ends well for them; they all seem to be greatly pained by events however, it will take the grace of God to recover from all that and be better than before relationally. If she was OK with her mother in law, the MIL could have ensured her hubby and kids tow the line – the powerful other woman, I tell you. It is hard to publicly humiliate another woman and her family like that. Anyway…. I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old. I am…
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New Year ,new Start
Towards the tail end of last year, during the Christmas week to be precise, there were several text messages, Whatsapp and Twitter posts that were circulated. While there were some really funny ones that got my ribs cracking, some got me thinking . And although it may not have been the intention of the original writer, my analytic mind sometimes does not allow me glide over some things . You may have come across it but no worries if you did not but it was a certain Tweet questioning the writer’s relationship status as at the Christmas before(2015) which was single and the present Christmas(2016) which was Single, Single BSc(Hons).…
