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Cut your Coat…
We all know them. Most of us have friends, relatives and people who always like to appear to be more than they are and quite frankly, they are doing a good job at it. They have perfected the art so well leaving no room for doubts but no matter how hard they try, we are always awakened to the reality when they come again knocking at our doors, to borrow something else or more. Sometimes reality also means we are the ones knocking on doors to borrow, yet again. I still remember the first thing I borrowed. The response I got from my mother was horrendous and it left such…
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Broken Promises
Today would have been the last day in February but the privileges of a leap year afford the opportunity for one more day in this month of love. Saint Valentine’s day has come and gone with the effects of a double-edged sword. For some people, it was a confirmation and celebration of love while for some others, it solved mysteries and brought miseries as they discovered that their partners had been cheating on them. In recent times, there has been an increase in the intensity of violence propagated by spouses/partners in the wake of a betrayal discovery. From verbal assaults to attempts to cut off the organ perpetrating evil, cheating…
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All by myself
Self-pride: It is an overdose of self-love added to a good portion of self-confidence multiplied by a cathedral size of self-esteem minus even the tiniest fraction of the condition called selfishness.” I don’t know if am the only one that tried to memorize this as I read Loretta’s write-up about self-love, it got me thinking, and saying to myself if every woman would teach self-love to her daughter, I believe we will have a better chance of our daughters growing up and having a healthy dose of self-esteem so much that there won’t be incidences of killing husbands/boyfriends in a jealousy fit (it worries me as it has become one…
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Self Love & Self Reboot
It is February when ‘everyone’ is busy getting ready for Valentine – did you just say not everyone under your breath as you read this? Not to worry, I shall oblige you and substitute the word with the phrase ‘many people across the world’. Welcome to February 2020! Often termed the ‘month of love’, this second month of the year in the Julian calendar is originally from the word Februarius which is a Latin word that means ‘to purify’. The Romans reserved Februarius as the month of purification and cleansing holding the February celebrations every 15th Day of the month. Then along came Valentine’s Day on February 14th which celebrates…
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Benefits of Lessons
Although today is the first Friday of the second month of the year, let me start by saying Happy New Year. The New year usually forces us to look back at the lessons from the old. This hopefully should help us become better and I have done my own digging and would love to share my thoughts with you. Whilst our words are a major part of communication. I find that sometimes, my speech is not a perfect translation of my intentions, sentiments, and feelings. When I look back at 2019, I believe that an area I failed in was the use of my words. I sometimes said things to…
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Where is Santa ?
On Christmas Day, I called one of our writers here at Dishusbandmata as I happen to be the godmother of her last children – a set of three-year-old twins. I wanted to find out how the children received their Christmas gifts (no, I didn’t buy them ). She (Himo) told me that the girl twin ran to her and asked excitedly “Mummy, where is Santa? I want to thank him “ I could picture the moment but wondered if I could actually partake of it so I asked my friend if she recorded it and she replied in the negative as the child had run into the kitchen while she…
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It’s ok to ask
Instruction is a pretty good teacher, but you rarely forget the lessons you learn from Experience. When I got into the University as an Undergrad, I had a lot of medical friends who kept throwing the phrase ‘Problem-Based Learning’ (PBL) about. I understood the meaning of those words individually but as a phrase, it didn’t make much sense until many months later. These friends had researched their University choices to find out which schools trained Doctors with this pattern. I went into a social science course and I fully expected to be taught everything I needed to know. I had achieved decent A’ levels and I was ready to be…
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I choose Gratitude
Wow! 2019 has only a few days to end and we will usher in another year. A lot of things didn’t go the way I had planned, not that I started the year with so many goals but I had three specific goals in mind, only one was achieved. So I won’t dwell on the things I haven’t achieved because I am ending this year with a grateful heart. I am here to count my blessings, name them one by one as the popular hymn admonishes, am counting my blessings to see how far I have come. Can we really count all of our blessings, maybe the ones we can…
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Much Ado about Nothing
Not everybody wants to stay single. Not everybody wants to get married. Not everybody wants to remain married. However due to circumstances of life, personal, family, societal, religious and other reasons: Persons may not be able to get married, despite their personal preferences. Persons who would rather be single, get into marriage. Persons remain in loveless and/or abusive marriages (perhaps to maintain a facade) despite their best interests. I got married at 39 years, 5 months and 4 days. Prior to that time, I had a friend who would plague my every Facebook post with marriage references, if I posted that the sun was shining, he would comment that it…
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Whispers around me
We have been talking about advice for some time now and I just remembered that during the countdown to my wedding day, my husband and I had various levels of counselling; both solicited and unsolicited advice. Sometimes some of them came in the form of whispers initially but as I have carried on in this journey of marriage, their significance has grown larger . One of the most profound words I heard came from a wise Professor who told me “Your mother-in-law is not your mother, so don’t treat her like your mother”. I was so relieved to hear this as pretty much everyone else had said the opposite. I…
