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Weird Proposals 3
When it comes to proposals,sometimes they go south because they have been done too early And then the question comes on how early is too early ? I say it actually depends .I know someone who proposed to his wife two weeks after they met . They were on a date and he asked her to marry him .She asked him “when?”.and then he told her ,give me an answer first and then we will work the details out .Of course ,it takes someone who is tryout convinced and know what they are looking for ,especially with the ability to recognize it and almost twenty years later ,they are still…
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Weird Proposals 2
I was on “Linked In” the other day and read about a proposal a pilot made to his fiancee . It was on a certain flight (he planned it ,on the same flight they met ) and began his announcement from the cockpit . He praised his fiancee highlighting how she had been very encouraging and instrumental to his progress and his career as a pilot . He asked some passengers to pick something in front of their seats and then actually told her to look behind her .He had gotten some fellow passengers to hold placards that said, ‘”will you marry me ?” ,when she turned around ,he was…
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What Men want …4
We women generally love to talk and it’s not surprising that the men had something to say around this issue. “It’s very insensitive when wives talk bad about their in-laws in the presence of the husband. That hurts deep.” This is a word for all of us and not just women; however, women seem to have mastered the weapon known as the tongue, a bit more than the men. There are a few characters in this drama so everyone should listen up! In most cases the in-law(s) who is the subject of the matter tends to be female so only God knows what she said or did to warrant this…
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What men want …3
Let me just make a confession here. Getting all this information from the men convicted me of some of my actions. “Men are not mind readers – hence the need for clear communication.” In fact, I am guilty of this one right now. I have been moody for over twenty four hours, waiting for hubby to realise that I am not myself and ask what is going on, but the guy is just carrying on as normal and my mood is not getting any better. But come to think of it, if I go and change into something skimpy and walk around the house, still wearing my moody face, I…
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What men want …2
It seems like after the question of how we look was raised , the men shifted to how where we live looks.Bedroom matters came next… “Unfortunately, the bedroom we share starts to look more feminine over time. We men sometimes wish we had our own man cave/bedroom; but for the sake of peace…. Have you seen that scene in ‘How to lose a guy in 10 days’ where Matthew M goes into his bathroom cabinet and sees tampons and shaving stuff and everything girly he never thought he would see in his personal space? That’s the picture I got when I heard this comment. I laughed when I watched that…
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That “other” woman 4
The instinct of the danger of the other woman is one that most women can identify with as far back as their childhood days. When it comes to being mistaken for the other woman, it can come in so many forms, sometimes from strangers who actually are acting in sympathy to the woman of the house and as such have tagged you a traitor who deserves some form of punishment. A University classmate of mine recounted recently how she went to the bank one day dressed up as usual (to give you a little picture, when we were in school, this babe was always dressed to the kill, on…
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Working with in-laws 4
I have been reading with interest this series on In-laws and last week. I noted that a husband shared and so decided to share my experience as a wife. I have been married for over a decade now and have had several interactions with my in-laws but I believe that the tone for this interaction at the end of the day is coloured by what the other partner does or say to their own side of the family . One incident comes to mind that illustrates this point for me. I learned greatly from it, although at the time it occurred, I did not see it in the light. I…
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Working with in-laws 3
I have followed dishusbandmata for some years now, and having read several topics and issues discussed, I thought it would be okay to do some articles by way of commenting on some topics that have been of interest to me from a husband’s perspective. Naturally, I wouldn’t be expected to tell long and flowery stories whilst making my views known, rather, I will go straight to the point and hit the hammer on the nail straight away. That’s because I am a man, and men go straight to the point. Maybe one of those things that makes “husbandmata” an issue for most wifeys. I will try to give a (man’s)…
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Working with in-laws 2
Several years ago, a cousin disclosed to me how she secretly wished for whomever she would eventually get married to, not to have a mother. According to her, she was not cut out to handle any in-law shenanigans. This revelation sent shivers down my spine. Now, why would anyone wish for such a reprehensible thing? It also got me wondering: would the woman I eventually decide to settle down with also harbour a similar wish? Well, I understood where my cousin was coming from. I know her background. Her mother’s experience with her in-laws was unenviable. Now, fast-forward to a few years down the line. My cousin met this guy.…
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I choose Gratitude 2
When I was twenty-one(don’t ask me when) ,I believe I had a birthday party .I received lots of cards but very few gifts.I am not really sure about the gifts but I remember one clearly.It was a plaque that was glass framed with a philosophical thought.I thnk I expected something more and I feel ashamed when I remember that the giver of the gift actually asked me if I saw the gift. I have long repented and cannot imagine something like that ever happening to me .As I have grown older, I have learnt the importance of being appreciative and doing so quickly and willingly,as I had been taught at…
