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One step at a time
One of the things about the New Year is there is a certain hope and contagious expectation with which most people start a year. Somehow there is a new surge of faith that says that the life that has been afforded is a divine sign that there is going to be change for the better in the future. With this new surge, several people start out with New Year resolutions that sadly do not last the first week of the year. I cannot say if the year 2021 had as much excitement of the newness that previous years have enjoyed because it seemed like several people were afraid to hope…
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Starting over right
After the year we have just been through, sitting down to write the usual New Year’s resolutions may be daunting. One of the quotes that have stayed with me since 1998 is by Matthew Ashimolowo – he may be the originator ‘Unless you leave this shore, you will not find another harbour’. The key issue for me is that I am not a quitter, I don’t like to admit defeat, I stick at things until I get to the prize, doggedly determined. Then the time came when I felt pressed enough to leave my job…. I had heard it said and read in the papers that having a baby negatively…
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In the beginning
♥And so we are the start of a year that so many of us could not wait to arrive. While a lot of people wished 2020 to be over and done with, there were quite a few others who were of a different opinion because of how the year had turned out for them. There was one viral picture of a lady (why was it a lady) and travelling suitcases with the caption that she was not counting 2020 to her years as she did not use it. The laughter It produced was seemingly contagious, although for me, when the dust of the initial humour settled, I was left with…
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Lessons from Yesterday
You’ll have to forgive our repetition, but I can not stop thanking God for the privilege of making it to December in this year 2020. I’ve been on this planet for a little under four decades and I can boldly say that this was a year like no other. Personally, I experienced a lot of battles in the mind; thoughts about how I would cope with the sudden changes that occurred, and how I would re-invent myself so as to remain relevant in the different spheres of my life. I got the chance to finally birth some ideas that had been brewing for a while, and even though the pace…
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Early Potholes
I love my husband. Love was not at first sight but it came and it is here to stay. However the process of oneness is not as simple as ‘…I now pronounce you man and wife…’ I’d like to share one of the first issues I faced in my marriage.I expected a few storms and I tried to imagine various scenarios that could arise but nothing prepared me for this particular issue. Being the only daughter in a large household, I had always enjoyed the privilege of having my own room, with my own furniture. As a student, I bought a house and enjoyed a very large bedroom with…
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Keeping it together
It’s that time again. The time to check ourselves; to evaluate what we’re doing right and wrong, to see where things need to change, to see where we need to pull our “bootstraps” up and do the work required. Yes! You guessed right, it’s the second half of the year! We have another six months to do the things we might have forgotten on our goals and resolutions lists. I’ve been thinking about my goals for 2019 recently, and I realized I haven’t really looked at what I actually wrote down since I put pen to paper (per se). I mean I have an idea of what I want to…
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NEW may mean change
There is a Family Tradition that holds every last day of the Year in my birth home. The day is usually filled with prayers of Thanksgiving for the ending year & requests for the coming year. It is one tradition that we(my brothers and I) somehow did not grumble much about, because though it meant being without food for most of the day,iit also meant doing the least possible house work while remaining indoors . I cannot remember when it started but it has always been and ever before the era of mobile phones, myself and my siblings all had to be present physically to participate. But over the…
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Realistic Stock Taking
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…. … or so they say. Smiles all around, Christmas decorations in town and at home, last minute shopping or stocking up, working the extra job to make a little more cash to spend – Yes Christmas can be exciting and exhausting all at once, but it’s the last holiday of the year so we like to go out with a bang. However, as the year ends, it is wise to take a quick trip down memory lane and reflect on the happenings so far. A lot of people tend to gloss over things or forget the details, but I intend…
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Path of no Return
Earlier this year I contemplated doing something I said I would never do. In fact, this thing has been my one constant whenever I think about relationships for as long as I can remember. Now before I expose myself, I think a little context is required. There are two things I have always put my feet down about when it comes to relationships. First, not going back to an ex after breaking up. I just believe once it ends, it ends. That’s it. No point in trying to drag something on longer than it needs to be. And second, taking control of the situation to get what I want…
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Stopping the Blame Game
This has not been an easy article to write mainly because its not cool talking about mistakes and regrets. I personally prefer to erase them from my history but alas, that’s not possible. It is also not fun to talk about a painful experience when you are still suffering the effects of your mistake. I have a list the length of my arm about all the things I blame my husband for. And to be fair, he probably is to blame for more than half the list! But I also have to look at my faults and make plans to conquer temptation, when it comes knocking again. For example, my…
