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Mind Readers
Working in two cities make me get the opportunity to spend time with my godchildren. Two weeks ago, I was with them and happened to be around while they were preparing to go to school. This usually is not the norm I usually leave the house very early to catch a train before they wake up. I had actually looked at my diary for the week and had thought it would be nice to participate in their bath time and do school runs with them as I love to be part of their lives as much as possible. But when the day came, I had an article I was working…
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Someone like You
Someone like You….sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead…. Someone like You….sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead…. I believe one of the reasons why Adele’s song by that title in 2011 made one of the greatest hits was the fact that it resonated with so many people. Almost everyone has had the pain of heartbreak no matter how someone else might try to trivialize it. I am not talking about those relationships which one gleefully ends but the ones that looked so promising (as far as you thought). Just about when the inflated balloon wanted to fly, a league of demons gathered with…
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Saying it right
September is here and it is another month which means we have a new theme here at Dishusbandmata.The year is gradually coming to an end and being alive in itself is one miracle we can all be grateful for.Recently I have noticed an increase in the number of videos where a public marriage proposals are made. Unfortunately, most of these recorded proposals received a negative answer.Some people might argue that these are all done for clout and although the reasons may vary, it is interesting to see people these days reject a marriage proposal especially knowing fully well that they are being filmed. And then the question goes on to…
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What goes around…
It’s a blessing to work in an environment where you feel motivated and inspired; and while Dishusbandmata is yet to hire ‘staff’ per say, working with our Editor-in-chief is a truly exhilarating process. She would usually have a very creative list of topics for the year, with each month having its own theme. Most times, I would see the topic and immediately search my brain’s archives for a script in which I have a minor role, thinking “which one has my husband done?”. However, for the month of August, I am the star of the show. I saw “My mouth diarrhoea” on our list of topics, and I knew I…
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Chinese Whispers
So recently on my secondary school alumni Whatsapp group, someone posted a picture caption that said since people started wearing facemasks, the rate of gossip among women have reduced by 90%. I am not sure if he knew (of course, it was a guy who posted it) that this was our topic of discussion this month but I replied ,saying the rate of discussion among men has reduced by 95%. That brought another guy to the defense saying that at least , it is discussions men have . Well this was falling into my bait and intent to which I replied – men’s discussion = gossip . I knew that…
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My In-Law Wish
Several years ago, a cousin disclosed to me how she secretly wished for whomever she would eventually get married to, not to have a mother. According to her, she was not cut out to handle any in-law shenanigans. This revelation sent shivers down my spine. Now, why would anyone wish for such a reprehensible thing? It also got me wondering: would the woman I eventually decide to settle down with also harbour a similar wish? Well, I understood where my cousin was coming from. I know her background. Her mother’s experience with her in-laws was unenviable. Now, fast-forward to a few years down the line. My cousin met this guy.…
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My 2 cents
The average man sees women as mysteries to be solved but isn’t it fascinating that women can’t always figure out how a man’s mind works? Why else will l be writing this piece if men were the open books some claim to be? And if you’re beginning to think that a Daniel has come to judgement with the wisdom of a sage equipped to unravel the enigma that wakes up beside you each morning, l’m sorry to disappoint. I’m another bloke trying to feel my way in the dark, making sense of the vast, often poorly mapped out landscape called marriage. Maybe l should start by telling you my story.…
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Where is Santa?
On Christmas Day, I called one of our writers here at Dishusbandmata as I happen to be the godmother of her last children – a set of three-year-old twins. I wanted to find out how the children received their Christmas gifts (no, I didn’t buy them ). She (Himo) told me that the girl twin ran to her and asked excitedly “Mummy, where is Santa? I want to thank him “ I could picture the moment but wondered if I could actually partake of it so I asked my friend if she recorded it and she replied in the negative as the child had run into the kitchen while she…
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Rumours …the ugly side
Most of us have never made a ‘Things to do’ list that has ‘start a rumour ‘on it, but we sometimes find ourselves involved in one way or the other in the business and may eventually suffer from its distasteful aftertaste. While we were growing up, my family suddenly moved to a downside suburb,(forced eviction) and shortly after our relocation, we were visited by the men of the night. Luckily their activities were confined to the living room because of the.security of the connecting door to the bedrooms. When they eventually left, we discovered that both our coloured television box and video cassette player had been stolen(if you never used these,…
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Let Go … Sometimes
There’s something we need to realise; we all have expectations of how we think the world should work. And the funny thing is, expectations have extremes like everything in life. Of course it’s good when we expect the earth to orbit the sun, because if not there will be chaos. It’s also good to have expectations in our relationships, because how else will we know if things are working or not? But today, I want us to focus on the other extreme. The times where our expectations are a little unrealistic and maybe borderline crazy. Ok, let’s jump in…. Sometimes, we expect people to only think of great things about…
