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Changing my Yes
So today is Good Friday and while we remember that Jesus died, I would like to share my story of a relationship that died. I had hardly been months in a particular relationship and was not expecting a proposal so quickly as I had my doubts. So I was a bit taken aback when on an outing one evening, just by the car, he put one knee to the ground to ask for my hand in marriage.I was not overly excited or elated and did not give an answer until several days later. Some of my friends were happy for me and said the excitement may come later but somehow…
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The Escape and the ‘Adieus’
Here’s a conversation between old classmates from a sitcom I watched a few years ago. “You stole my boyfriend! You stole the life I could have had! I had a good thing going and you just came in, offering what I couldn’t give him, and you took him away from me!!!” “Yes, I did, and I took the AIDS he should have given to you as well!!!” And then there was silence. Hindsight is an amazing gift. That moment when you realise how close you came to making a huge mess of things – priceless. In some cases, you might even want to thank the person who took the bullet…
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After the Break Up
How do you know when it is time to “let it go”? We experience various scenarios when it comes to relationship dynamics, which can get a little bit confusing. I mean being on our own can be complicated at best, then we add other people to the mix and that just creates a whole lot of drama! Now, I’ve heard people say that breakups usually happen for one of three reasons. Number one, you find yourself in a happy relationship and the other person just decides it’s over. Number two, you find yourself in a toxic relationship and you just have to leave. And finally number three, it just…
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Shake It Off
We’ve all done silly things we look back at and just shake our heads at. Most people know that breaking up is a hard process to go through. But it’s even harder when you need to decide if you should stay in touch with your ex after the breakup. This is where things get complicated. But remaining in each other’s lives makes moving on harder and slipping back very risky. Funny thing is, I was just talking to a girlfriend about this a couple of days ago. We were talking about our ex experiences, and I was remembering how my previous relationship ended amicably – which led me to…
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Learning Curve
Let’s just start with the elephant in the room shall we? In my mere twenty five years on this beautiful planet, I have only ever been in one actual relationship. There, it’s all out now. To be honest, I still think I was too young for it to count but oh well. This relationship was a fast burner and looking back on it, I wouldn’t say I made mistakes per say. Our timing was just off. So if I had to pick out something that was an issue in this relationship, it’d be that I’m not an overly emotional expressive person. Public displays of affection was my biggest NO. Just…
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Making me happy
Sitting down at my desk to write this post has not been quite easy. I was thinking I would do it quickly but have just heard about the death of someone I know who happens to be close to a few friends of mine(their Pastor) and sometimes when I hear of deaths like this, I begin to wonder if I am doing enough and doing all I can to ensure that I affect positively the lives of the people I interact with while I am alive and when I am no longer here, then I hope that the legacy I have left in my writings will provide the opportunity for…
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Crazy Proposals
I sit back at my desk thinking of what to write today as I have just returned from a long day shift. I hardly ever run out of ideas and have been thinking about topics we would be dealing with very soon but if there is any thing I would generally like to write about , it is those things I remember that bring laughter. Laughter sometimes not because it is funny but because somethings are so crazily akward that the only appropriate response is to laugh. I remember as a child going towards the bus stop where the shoemakers usually keep their wares / There was this particular shoemaker …
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Begins in the kitchen.
During my undergraduate days ,I had a flatmate who was a deeply spiritual sister whose godliness also was taken on the outward appearance with the elimination of jewelry and all forms of make -up. She was also engaged to a brother of the same denomination. So I was very surprised one day when I saw her with a book titled “Sex begins in the kitchen”.It was a very intriguing title and she assured me that it was an interesting book. I gave her the money to purchase a copy for me also byt when she returned from the market ,she searched frantically for the book which she claimed she purchased…
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Lost Love
It wasn’t love at first sight or anything. We were just in the same fellowship in college. In our final year we both became executives in the fellowship and you were the president. We got close in the course of working together as a team but even closer when we both had to resit a course each after our final exams. I remember those innocent years when the innocence of youth was undefiled. Our friendship was deep, we had so much in common. Unconsciously I feel in love with you. I spent a lot of time thinking about you it was until we left for home after the resit that…
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Special selection
It is one of those things I came across as I was growing up.Somewhere in the longing of the heart of every woman (maybe I should say most women) is the desire for that special somebody who would treat us like no other.The treatment we have always imagined that we deserve. Men being hunters seem to know how to play the cards well and would do almost anything to make the lady they are interested in feel special.And sincerely sometimes I wish it just happens like that as it would save us all from many needless sorrows.Boy meets girl, fancies her and treats her well in a special way.She responds…
