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Dramatic Ex
I was at a shopping mall with my wife. After picking some items, we moved to the checkout queue to pay for them. There, on the queue, a lady directly ahead of us turned around. Our eyes locked. I froze. It was my ex. Immediately, her expression changed. It became less than friendly. In the very awkward moment, I was somehow able to mumble a “hello”. I anticipated a similar response from her. I was disappointed. Instead, she took a brief condescending look at me, and then at my wife. After which, she turned around and moved forward on the queue to replace the person in front of her.…
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Romantic Neighbours
One of the advantages of living in the neighbourhood and having neighbours, is the tendency to be seen. The chances that we could strike a conversation that could lead to something special is always there. Sometimes our neighbours want something more and we are not interested. Well, I think it is always very good to define the relationship from the very beginning and I dare say that romance in the neighbourhood also has its rules of engagement like romance in the workplace. So shortly after I arrived and settled in the United Kingdom, I was faced with the challenge of accommodation. One of my former housemates got married and by…
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Neighbourly tips
Troublesome neighbours are a reality of life and are not restricted to certain climes. Sometime ago I was asking my brother if he had received a parcel I had sent for his children and somehow our conversation shifted to his neighbours. You see depending on the area you live in sometimes, it might be possible for your neighbours to collect from the postman a parcel of yours in your absence. This would save you the trouble of going to the delivery office to pick up the parcel. So I was enquiring if his neighbours did this for each other and he explained that his neighbours were not on talking…
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Digressive Neighbours
I looked at the topic for this month and wondered which story will be adequate to share. In short it seemed I had a lot of stories and have had my share of living with other people. But just as I was about to write, saying to myself “yes I have had troublesome neighbours”, it oc dawned on tme that I may perhaps have been a troublesome neighbour 😳. Well. I would rather say , may have been perceived to be a troublesome neighbour. Being a troublesome neighbour is something we may not have set out doing .neither do we look for houses desiring to have troublesome neighbours. But…
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Mirror mirror
You are welcome indeed to another year with us and am sure you are looking forward to reading our posts this year. I must say that it is indeed a time of sober reflection for us here as a team and we are truly amazed and humbled at how our writings over the years have changed perspectives and helped not only our relationships but the relationships of others. I remember reading the story of a lady who always watched her neighbour from her house. She used to see the woman very clearly but noticed as the days went by, her vision of her neighbour was getting blurred. She wondered why…
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Sincerely wrong
We.have come to that season of the year when there is a lot of excitement, love and exchange of gifts. Compared to other holidays, this is one that most people cast out all restrain as they seek to enjoy themselves with the much readily available food. I can still remember as a child on Christmas day I would go visiting in several places and after sometime, stop to count the proceeds of my visitation.😜 Christmas day meant eating jollof rice and chicken and there was no rice like Christmas rice, hence it is called by the customizer name “Christmas rice “. As for the chicken, it was one thing I…
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Making Enemies & Emotional Intelligence
Someone bought a car and another friend was congratulating them on social media and the following conversation ensued Friend A – Congratulations girl, Soar on, More and more big wins Friend B –Why do we celebrate liabilities in this part of the world.Especially very costly liabilities A car is just a tool to move from point A to point B . Yet we celebrate like we have achieved something great . Let’s stop this culture… Its not healthy To which friend A replied;” Is it your liability ? Abeg when you acquire your own liabilities , please MOURN them . Thank you It made me laugh but got me thinking…
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Making Enemies
I like to read and remain forever grateful to the person who introduced me to Amazon over 15 years ago . It became my haven. I searched for previous books I had read loaned and bought most of them. The more I bought books, the more I got other books recommended to me based on my previous purchase .In short thse were usually recommended and sent as “Since you like book A , you might like Book B . I have had so many recommendations but up to date ,I have not received any suggestions on a book of how to make enemies. I doubt if you have also .…
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Emotional Intelligence
Hey!!!!! I’d love to start with a story. It’s a little naughty of me because I was sorta eavesdropping (don’t judge me!). After church, I was walking to the bus stop alongside some church members. An older lady (aunty) was talking to a younger lady; asking where her car was. We came upon a car and aunty said “I hope this isn’t your car because …” something not very nice. I was shooketh! I kept thinking “she did not!” but she really did and did not appear remorseful! I wonder whether you’re familiar with the concept of emotional intelligence … It seems like such a fluffy, fancy term but I…
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I “Too” Know
‘Conflict Resolution’ was one of the counselling sessions my husband and I had to go through as we prepared for our wedding day, and a very memorable session it was. I remember the session mainly because I was called out on some issues relating to how I perceive other people’s actions. So, I made a decision to try really hard to let stuff out, so that I don’t harbour evil thoughts anywhere. It is really not a sin to disagree with someone or have a unique opinion on a matter, but how we express our views is where the danger resides. I had a really strong argument with a friend…
