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To Last Forever 2
Benny continues her story till the Final parting. Her friend kept asking if she was still breathing and we were told she was breathing, I was just crying to GOD for mercy. I was too scared to ask if she was breathing and I wanted to scream at the friend to stop asking. The hospital was a 3 minutes drive, we rushed to the emergency, I rushed in to call a doctor, the doctor came took a look at her, checked her pulse and said SHE IS GONE. I called my husband and he was SHOCKED, we had left him standing and talking with some neighbors at home outside in…
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To last forever?
Sometimes we do no not ever comprehend that our friends will die. We just believe they would be there forever and are rudely shocked when they do not . I did have a friend who was so dear to me ,sharing about her is my way of grieving and cherishing what we shared . 10:04am 27thApril 2013 “She is gone”, my pain riddled brain was fogged, I thought, oh she has gone out and will soon be back, then I blinked and looked again at the doctor who just checked her pulse, the fog lifted, she is gone doesn’t mean she went out, she is gone means she is gone,…
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The Friendship Factor
I am a firm advocate for the notion which says ‘Marry your best friend”. It’s something I have believed even before I fully understood what marriage was all about. The word ‘friend’ in the 21st century has come to mean a lot of different things and people generally agree that there are different levels of friendship. From my perspective, it feels a little weird discussing friendship in the context of marriage. How did you get to being married if you were not friends? Well, we had a mutual respect for each other, we had a lot in common, he/she is from a good home and is stable…? These are…
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The Knowing
There comes a time in life when you feel stagnant in your position. This may be in your job, your education, your business, even your role in your family at times! It’s actually scary when you have to ask yourself “What have I learnt lately?’ Lately, I’ve been thinking about my relationships. I don’t know why but I’ve been feeling a bit irrelevant in my relationships with my friends. Now, I have only a select few I call my friends, and I’ve been feeling rather inactive towards them. I’ve just been in a weird place where it’s like my friends are always “giving” to me and all I do is…
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Your people are NOT My people
What’s all the hullaballoo about marriage and in-laws? Do some women really ask God for husbands without Moms out of fear? If they live in another country, then in-laws shouldn’t really be an issue, right? Haven’t we flogged this in-law matter enough!? I have had the privilege of attending a couple of bridal showers recently and the questions above are some of the thoughts and issues that came up. Hearing too many things about marriage and in-laws can be tedious, but I strongly believe that hearing little or nothing on this matter is a recipe for disaster, so stop complaining and read on. ha-ha. While thinking about this subject…
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Escape
It was a scorching hot afternoon on a weekday, and our neighbours children came over to play with my brother and I. We’d all been friends far longer than I could remember because our parents worked together. This hot afternoon was like many others, we played several games with each other in our compound. We raced each other, we skipped, we laughed. It was all fun and games until it was nap time. I went to one of our empty guest rooms to sleep; my brother kept playing with the neighbour’s children. I don’t know how long I had been sleeping for before I felt something creeping up my legs.…
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Letting it go
Learning to let go comes to us all as we grow older. The better you are at letting go the more at peace you will be with yourself and the more time you will have to yourself for your self to figure out the person you need to be and to appreciate the people God brings your way who genuinely want to walk this way called life with you. Some relationships are meant to be lifelong like the relationship between husband and wife, children and parents, siblings etc our family ties. Those relationships are worth fighting for, keep on keeping on. as long as it depends on you. The thing…
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Let it go
Forgiveness goes a long way in any friendship, sometimes overlooking others shortcomings will preserve the friendship for decades, when we look back, we won’t regret writing off their sins. Years ago in my first year in school, I had accommodation issues, I discussed my plight with another friend who told me she was sorry but can’t help me because she was squatting somewhere herself, so I went with her to her room where I met the lady (let’s call her Lola) squatting her and when I narrated my plight, Lola told me to join them in the already tight corner. I couldn’t believe it this is someone I just met…
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Keeping it Real
It is quite rare that I get the opportunity to write on this blog for two weeks consecutively. In as much as I love to write, I am plagued with mixed feelings as I would have to continue to recount some more relationship disasters but just like a little red can turn yellow orange and not the other way round, I am hoping that this recount will help someone else’s relationship for good. Growing up, I found myself avoiding people who were given to emotional outbursts. I was sort of quiet and did not know how to be vocally intensive especially on the spot. What I lacked…
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Answer the Call
Answer the Call I was listening to a message online by Bishop TD Jakes the other day, and at the end of it I thought to myself, “I’m going to give you such a big hug when we meet in heaven, because you have helped me through a lot of rough patches!”. It seemed like a weird thought to pop into my head but then I started to think of how many people regard this special instrument of God as a Mentor to them. This month is all about Mentoring and I fully agree with a statement last week’s article which said “…it takes a whole village to raise a…
