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After Valentine’s Day
So this week was Valentine and it was right in the middle of a working week. This was a valid excuse for not going out for me. Coupled with the fact that I enjoy relaxing after work at home. Well, one of the things I did was to scan social media as knew there will be some pranks for the day and I was not disappointed. In short, the very first one was a tweet from one guy asking that people should kindly tweet till it got to the present consent. Meanwhile, his tweet was to one certain named fellow. not to buy the lie, his girlfriend named also would…
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Romantic Sex
I cannot believe it is the first Friday in November. It just feels like it was yesterday we were wishing each other “Happy New Year” and then the month of February came. I am not sure how that month went for you and your significant other but for me, I remember it with dismay. Yes, it was the lover’s month but I must confess I did not get a card this last Valentine which ironically is also my birth month. Come to think of it, I am not sure I even received one last year or even the year before that. I am not sure if it is something that…
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Perfect Picture
One of the signs of a good book is the ability to enjoy it over and over again . Some of our articles have been voted as most read and most loved and some readers have suggested we put those articles in a category “Timeless stories” and periodically publish them again. The article below is one of them which I believe is great for us to reread especially as we have five more months to go this year ..Enjoy I recently started a new job and am still in the process of knowing everybody. It is almost two weeks now but I still seem to be meeting new people daily.…
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My altar journey
Diary Excerpt 1 :It really isn’t that easy, although everybody says it is. This is getting too tricky for my liking. Nothing could have prepared me for this but the pressure is serious. Big sis always says don’t make your husband despise your family and don’t make your family despise your husband. Really tricky!! I assumed that since dad is clergy and a really good marriage counsellor, my case should be pretty straight forward. I forgot this would be new territory to him and his reactions are so foreign to me. I don’t know this guy, cos this ain’t my Daddy! Diary Excerpt 2: I haven’t written in a long while because a part of me…
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She is “Silver”
The idea that there may be another significant woman in a husband’s life can be very threatening to a wife. We battle enough with mothers-in-law and special Aunties and even some godmothers; so to include the added burden of a devious other somebody is a pretty big deal. I prayed concerning this area before I got into marriage as I know that I lack the energy to fight for any man. Why should I have to? I told God I wanted what was mine and not another person’s property. God gave me ‘my own man’, but from the first month of our marriage, I had competition. Silver had known…
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That “other” Woman 2
I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old. I am talking practically daily… yeah, right? I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now. I took marriage and children to be a given. It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it? Backed up by my dad’s, ‘work hard, pass Maths and English especially, go to the University, then get…
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That “other ” Woman
We hate the other woman. Usually, we do not even know that she exists. Somewhere deep down inside we wonder because society has told us since we were children that all men cheat. All men cheat. This singular notion is probably responsible for the breakdown of most relationships. Both men and women hear this and it plays out differently for both sexes. For the man, it is a ready justification not to fight unfaithfulness. A ready excuse that exempts him from culpability because apparently his nature is prone to adultery. For the woman it is a complex mix of distrust, feelings of inadequacy and guilt. Yes, guilt. Somehow…
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Stinging Love
I know we are in the Love month and there has been so much on love and all those butterflies. Many partners have outshone each other in showing how much they really care and love. I wish I had my own example of this but I would put my own story believing someone’ else would learn from my mistakes. When I first got married, I was a stay at home mum although not by choice. This position made me vulnerable and although I did not suffer any physical violence, I was subject to emotional and financial abuse. And there was hardly anything I could do because I did not have…
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Journey to the altar
Diary Excerpt 1: It really isn’t that easy, although everybody says it is. This is getting too tricky for my liking. Nothing could have prepared me for this but the pressure is serious. Big sis always says don’t make your husband despise your family and don’t make your family despise your husband. Really tricky!! I assumed that since dad is clergy and a really good marriage counsellor, my case should be pretty straight forward. I forgot this would be new territory to him and his reactions are so foreign to me. I don’t know this guy, cos this ain’t my Daddy! Diary Excerpt 2: I haven’t written in a long while because a part of me doesn’t want…
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One home,two houses
Living apart ….. this is something I never imagined in my wildest dream that I will have to deal with but one thing I have learnt about being married is to be open to change and make the best of every situation no matter how bad it seems. I was believing God for a job and actually wrote down all I wanted in the new job. I kept praying and believing God. I got a call from a friend in the UK asking me if I was interested in a job in an organization here in Nigeria. I went for the interview and it went well. It was also…
