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Finally ,my own baby! 2
It was a beautiful day in December twelve years ago when I tied the knot with the love of my life. Like every young couple, my husband and I started looking forward to having an addition to our family, but that dream took 5 years, and honestly, those five years felt like 50 years! And with each passing month, I waited with anticipation only to be faced with disappointment whenever I saw my period.! “Aunty Flo” was as constant as the morning sun. As the months dragged to years, I increasingly became worried. There were several times I cried myself to sleep. When was this going to happen? Why was…
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Finally,my own baby 4
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Finding another baby…
Happy Mother’s day. As promised, here is our first story. It is a story of a journey of secondary infertility I had a difficult time after I had my first daughter. Labor was painless, delivery seemingly simple but two days after I started bleeding. I ended up in the ICU with a number of complications. I came out of hospital several days later a completely different person. Looking back, the trauma I experienced dealt with me but I didn’t realize just how much. The first and obvious sign of trauma was my aversion to going through the childbirth process again. At least not for the foreseeable future. I had…
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Finally ,my own baby
While we were growing up ,we lived in a close and we had a couple who were also church members on that close .They were our adopted “auntie and uncle”. My brothers and I almost by default went to their house whenever possible and if my memory serves me well, we spent some holidays especially during the weekends with them. We accompanied them to places and they had a very active social life. We were like their children as they did not have kids at the time . I remember a visit to Federal Palace Hotel, Lagos and visiting other notable places with them .I did not really understand the…
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Mum did know
One of the benefits of becoming older is that we begin to acknowledge the sacrifices our parents made; putting food on the table, shelter over our heads , giving us education as they could afford and then the part we come to appreciate later, disciplining us. While I was growing up, my mother was greatly feared by myself. Being a strong disciplinarian, she did not spare the rod at all but I would not say I was beaten unnecessarily. Most times, when I got a beating, it was well deserved. One of the beatings that still remains eternally tattooed in my memory was the one I got the first time…
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Mum didn’t know 4
Growing up for me was blissful. I had a father who would listen, empower and reinforce to me the fact that God fearfully and wonderfully created me. Daddy told me daily how I could be anything I wanted to be. You see, my daddy was 30 years older than my mother. He was better educated in “terms of certificates” than her and he was a greatly travelled gentleman. My mother on the flip side, was only a standard six certificate holder, from a more humble background but “a very intelligent woman” without the glory of “many paper certificates”. By virtue of the gap in their background, my mother’s mantra was…
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Mum didn’t know 3
As a child, I really didn’t look forward to being a teenager. When I finally turned thirteen, I told myself over and over that I wasn’t as smart as I thought. This was because I had heard about and seen so many naughty teenagers and I really didn’t want to be like them. Most of them did things their parents would never dream they were doing, but I really wanted to have an open relationship with my mum particularly. It was really cool to be sent off to boarding school, where I was technically ‘safe’ from certain issues. There were all kinds of girls in this ‘safe zone’ and without…
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Choosing Joy ….
My second son has always been a bundle of joy. He keeps playing, and having fun even when things don’t look good. You see, he struggles with his health and with his academics. The difference is very obvious especially since his twin seems to be so good academically and rarely falls ill. He doesn’t say much but I know that he feels bad everytime she gets one more prize or award. But last week his time came. His school had been practicing for interhouse sports and he was representing Green House. On the very last week, he was told to switch to his sister’s house (topaz) This meant he lost…
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Dear Mother,…..
…It’s taken me a long time to get here, but there are some things I need to say….. I just want you to understand the impact you’ve had in my life; I hope you know that I am the woman I am today mainly because of the woman you are. Wow! As I am sat here trying to put my pen to paper (figuratively), I don’t even know where to start. I mean even after years of my commitment to try and understand your approach to this relationship we have, I can honestly say I don’t get it. But I’d be lying if I said I learnt nothing from it.…
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After the Wedding 2
I love my husband. Love was not at first sight but it came and it is here to stay. However the process of oneness is not as simple as ‘…I now pronounce you man and wife…’ I’d like to share one of the first issues I faced in my marriage.I expected a few storms and I tried to imagine various scenarios that could arise but nothing prepared me for this particular issue. Being the only daughter in a large household, I had always enjoyed the privilege of having my own room, with my own furniture. As a student, I bought a house and enjoyed a very large bedroom with…
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After the Wedding
I do not know if you have had the experience of hearing these four words “I am your husband!” I smile thinking about the few guys who introduced themselves to me in this way during my single days. It was enough for me to walk away laughing. However, this little statement has had a different effect on me since I said ‘I DO’.Marriage is good – it really is, and I’ll defend and support getting married to the right person any day and anytime. However, God in His infinite wisdom has decided that we would not come to each other as perfect beings, but work together to achieve perfection in…
