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Stay Calm
There are a few things in life we’ve come to expect; the sun and moon coming out, different time zones between countries… To name a few. There’s another I haven’t mentioned, and that’s the one I want to focus on in today’s post. And that is expecting that we won’t always agree with everyone we meet. It would actually be crazy, or at least naive, for us to think we’d agree with every opinion from everyone we come in contact with.The thing is, disagreeing isn’t the actual problem. Where things often get messy is how we respond to these disagreements. We all have our own unique ways of resolving conflict.…
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The Other Side
One of the joys of WhatsApp is the ability to connect to several people in a group setting. Although this can be a source of joy and bring back real memories especially if it is to a people we once shared history with , it also has its share of pain and drama. Realistically, the further down the history with a group, the more diverse the individuals would be . Taking my high school Whatsapp group for instance, at one point in our lives , we were all joined together in a private school because we belonged to a certain social class. However, when we parted ways, life happened…
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Voices from the Village
I spent most of my childhood and teenage years in Africa, so I understand the saying “It takes a whole Village to raise a child”. I have memories of being told-off by absolute strangers for things that they had no vested interest in. Some of those ‘busy-body’ moments were actually welcome, but most of them … well, let’s just say they don’t bring back fond memories. As I have grown older, and I am tempted to force my advice on the youth around me, I remember how I felt, receiving those words of wisdom that I did not ask for. This makes me pause a little, and think a while…
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Daddy versus Husband
“Na oversabi wife dey call her husband daddy” I remember the first time I heard that phrase used. I was actually puzzled about it because I knew many wives that called their husbands daddy. Some have done it out of courtesy as children have been born and children being children usually pick up the names they hear us call another and in an African setting or even majority of cultures, it would be disrespectful for a child to refer to his/her parents by their first name at some point in their lives , so some women have virtually had to use the name daddy for their husbands because of the children…
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Home or Zoo
In the course of waiting on the Lord, a lot of things happened that made me wonder why people, including Christians act or say the things they do. Being a matured single doesn’t make you any different from the seemingly young single girl out there. Sadly people think the pressure of age is enough reason for a matured single lady to target another woman’s husband or for crazy unsolicited advice to be offered by so called well-meaning people all in the bid to get her married. Some 13 years ago, some of us in my church were looking to invest in Agriculture so we were going to look at some…
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First Class Love
I will be the first to confess that it was only until I entered high school that the matter of step-parenting became real in my world. Prior to that, all I knew about step -parents was from the story books I read, with Cinderella story being my most vivid experience. My vocabulary was also limited to step-mothers as these books portrayed and was well tainted to the fact that they were all wicked. I was therefore surprised to learn differently when I entered the boarding school and made friends with people from different religious and ethnic backgrounds. I listened with rapt attention and confusion sometimes as I heard people say…
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Stepping Up means Stepping Down
It was a sunny afternoon, the kind when the nearest Fan-milk bicycle man is your friend. I had walked the long distance from our house to the gate near the road, busy seeking one such lifesaving men when I heard the shouts and the noise coming from inside the house. “Leave me alone. I want to go away from this house!” She screamed. “You can go”, her mother replied. I abandoned the dream of my ice cream on a Sunny afternoon and ran back to the house to see what was happening. Through the air vent, I peeped into the house…very reluctant to swap the sunny heat for the flaming…
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Marrying by “revelation”
This afternoon, many people were saddened as the news of the death of the Queen’s husband filled the air. Prince Phillip, the Duke of Edinburgh had been married to the Queen for over 70 years. All over the world as the news spread, comments have poured in, celebrating him and his commitment to the Queen. Being married to the same person for 73 years is no easy feat. There is no denying that having a good marriage takes a lot of hard work, the only issue is sometimes we do not want to put in the necessary effort and it is amazing how this our laziness can sometimes be even…
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Marrying by grace!
Yesterday being April Fool’s day, I was so tempted to upload this post but decided that since today is just the day after, most of us will still be in the mood. I did not fall for any April Fool’s joke n yesterday neither did I play any pranks however I must confess I had my share of laughter as I saw one joke after the other. There was this wedding invitation that a friend sent to one of my only ladies WhatsApp group yesterday. I knew it was fake immediately I saw it but still clicked on it. It reminded me of an encounter that I had although It…
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Telltale signs
Cheating cheating cheating . Just the thought of the word is repulsive in itself and could readily bring to the surface memories we prefer to forget .It could come in different forms as well as having several responses depending most times on how honest we choose to be . While some people are ready to prove that their boo is for them alone, and fight it with both physical and spiritual powers, there are some others who would prefer to let a false sense of peace reign and not talk about it . Adopting a head in the sand approach of an ostrich, others would rather lie to themselves and…
