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Marrying by grace!
Yesterday being April Fool’s day, I was so tempted to upload this post but decided that since today is just the day after, most of us will still be in the mood. I did not fall for any April Fool’s joke n yesterday neither did I play any pranks however I must confess I had my share of laughter as I saw one joke after the other. There was this wedding invitation that a friend sent to one of my only ladies WhatsApp group yesterday. I knew it was fake immediately I saw it but still clicked on it. It reminded me of an encounter that I had although It…
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The Day After
Yesterday was a very significant day in the lives of most people. It was not just the adults but even many teenagers had looked forward to it. It was a day to celebrate love and ironically, another day that could be a painful reminder for some people. And sometimes this pain could have been caused by unmet expectations, as well as the discovery of betrayal/two-timing. Without much ado, yesterday probably defined most relationships. I know of someone who proposed yesterday and got an affirmative answer, I equally know of a husband whose principle of non-celebration of the day has always been that he did not believe in Valentine’s day as…
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Girlfriends Activated
So about two weeks ago, someone posted the above picture on my high school Whatsapp group. It struck me because the truth presented was mixed with sarcasm, and the hurt behind the post was unmistakably clear. This married man has had his hands burnt and the girlfriends of his wife were partly to blame. In the midst of his pain, he thought it might be best to warn others of the other stakeholders in a marriage. He did not mince words about the unwelcome crew whom he referred to as an idiot bunch of board directors . Let me start by first saying that the truth behind the post is…
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Remaining Friends
One of the most frequent complaints I hear from most ladies is the fact that their spouses are no longer their friends . Well after listening to some people, it becomes quite clear that there was not really any genuine friendship in the first place as most times, the relationship started out with the goal of getting married. This often translates to every one being at their best behaviour as well as managing to show some signs of friendship. Unfortunately, someone gets deceived that there is some friendship which would progress to besties after the marriage. Don’t get me wrong here. I am not saying that you cannot meet someone…
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Milestones
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us… … And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson If I had started this piece some weeks ago, when the idea first popped into my head, it would have been a very angry read. However, I have calmed down a bit and changed my tone, but you may still feel the odd outburst so please bear…
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My 2 cents
The average man sees women as mysteries to be solved but isn’t it fascinating that women can’t always figure out how a man’s mind works? Why else will l be writing this piece if men were the open books some claim to be? And if you’re beginning to think that a Daniel has come to judgement with the wisdom of a sage equipped to unravel the enigma that wakes up beside you each morning, l’m sorry to disappoint. I’m another bloke trying to feel my way in the dark, making sense of the vast, often poorly mapped out landscape called marriage. Maybe l should start by telling you my story.…
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Much Ado about Nothing
Not everybody wants to stay single. Not everybody wants to get married. Not everybody wants to remain married. However due to circumstances of life, personal, family, societal, religious and other reasons: Persons may not be able to get married, despite their personal preferences. Persons who would rather be single, get into marriage. Persons remain in loveless and/or abusive marriages (perhaps to maintain a facade) despite their best interests. I got married at 39 years, 5 months and 4 days. Prior to that time, I had a friend who would plague my every Facebook post with marriage references, if I posted that the sun was shining, he would comment that it…
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De-weaponize the Culprit!
Warning:This article has been written with the full intention of improving your sex life WITHIN marriage. There was a man. He fell in love with a mermaid. He left his brother, he left his business, and they lived happily ever after. But one day, he sat on a rock……… This was the introduction to one of the films I watched on repeat as a teenager. The film itself was mediocre, but the theme song and this introduction really stuck out to me. Most films and books end with the happily ever after, and we really believe that the heroes and heroines of the movies, wake up every morning smiling into…
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Centre of Excellence
Waking up from the bunk bed one morning, I was faced with the arduous task of taking my bath once again in the orientation camp during my service year. There were no bathrooms and as such every morning, the harmattan wind blew with revenge on our naked bodies while the cold water with which we took our baths struggled to take its place as one of the top three causes of our morning misery, losing always to the brutality of the soldiers. All around me in the open space behind our dormitory were bodies of the womenfolk. Different sizes, shapes and colours. Armed with a pail of some sort, we…
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Omugwo-the eye opener
I heard someone say recently that her mother-in-law lived with her family for twenty years before she died. I cannot imagine that happening as I do not think my mother-in-law can stand living in the same house with me. If there was a way she could see her son and grandchildren without making any contact with me, I am 100% sure she would take the offer. You may begin to wonder if I offended her but to the best of my knowledge, I haven’t. In short, from the very first time we met, she has acted awkwardly. It happened several years ago. My husband and I had initially met 5years…
