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When Love is a Lie
She could never forget the first day it happened. As the drop of liquid landed on her body, her confusion about its source as well as its willingness to find its way on her arm puzzled her .Had the tension in the house gotten so bad that it blew the roof , temporarily ?Was it possible that it was raining in her house? How could it be one isolated drop?. She looked at her husband in utter disbelief and the gleam in his eyes was unmistakable. At the corner of his mouth was a sickening smile that had begun to form, he was glaring at her with a fake look…
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So, Let’s go there!
Sex isn’t a topic many Africans are comfortable talking about. The Caribbeans and Caucasians are way ahead of us when it comes to talking about it, and so one can only imagine what we think on the matter of Sexual Therapy… Well, I’ve just about summoned enough courage to say a few things on the matter – So let’s go there! Unlike Hollywood has led most of us to believe, being able to satisfy your spouse sexually is not always a natural talent, neither is swimming for that matter. I honestly thought everyone was born with the ability to swim and as I child, I spent ages dreaming about…
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Un-break my heart
Some years ago when I lived in Hull, some friends came visiting and after sometime we started singing or perhaps. I started the song. The lyrics were a bit wrapped as myself and one of the visitors friend sang the popular Tony Braxton’s song as “Come break my heart “. Un-break my heart Say you’ll love me again Undo this hurt you caused When you walked out the door And walked out of my life Un-cry these tears I cried so many nights Un-break my heart My heart Luckily the second friend who was present corrected us and we were informed it was Unbreak my heart . We shared…
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Knowing the “One”
The Valentine season is a few months gone and for some people, it marked the beginning of a new relationship while for some others, it probably identified cracks in a relationship they thought was developing. The unmistakable silence pre and post Valentine period has only gone on to prove that they have once again been unlucky in the game of love.No matter how many heartbreaks we sometimes go through, we still all hope that we will find true love and with every other relationship, the expectations of our heart spar as we wonder if we have come to the end of the search. There comes a time in the life…
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Don’t Cheat yourself
I struggled to come up with an idea for this article as ‘cheating’ is not a topic that crosses my path often. The word is very uncommon in my circle and the experience is hardly mentioned; either by the cheater or the person being cheated. I also feel like this topic has been addressed on so many levels that I couldn’t think of what I could possibly say that might throw some new light on the matter. Then a friend rang me this week to rant about his niece who had just committed suicide over an argument with her boyfriend. Listening to the story, we were both angry at this young woman who…
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Telltale signs
Cheating cheating cheating . Just the thought of the word is repulsive in itself and could readily bring to the surface memories we prefer to forget .It could come in different forms as well as having several responses depending most times on how honest we choose to be . While some people are ready to prove that their boo is for them alone, and fight it with both physical and spiritual powers, there are some others who would prefer to let a false sense of peace reign and not talk about it . Adopting a head in the sand approach of an ostrich, others would rather lie to themselves and…
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My Lost Love
My name is Ogheneyoma and I have sent this story to Dishusbandmata. I hope it helps someone. In my second year in the university, I started dating a guy; he was my first boyfriend so I was taking baby steps with him while I tried to figure out the dating world. We made out a couple of times but no heavy stuff because I was 19 years and wasn’t ready to go all the way. In my third year we broke up because I got saved. He was of the opinion my getting saved didn’t change anything but for me it changed everything; I didn’t even want the occasional kisses…
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How we met
Love, Love, Love. February brings that word to focus like no other month. The celebration of love, the pain of love, the mystery and misery of love. The wine, the chocolates, the flowers, the takeout, and sadly… the ‘nothing’. And while some people may be trying to get out of the race, some are struggling to get in. There are many ways to begin the journey to a lasting love relationship and some of those methods have changed or evolved over time amongst humans. I say this because animals still use the same tried and tested routines. Most male mammals battle for the title of dominant male, which then earns them the right to…
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Left Alone
It started with her father, of course, when he decided he could love her from afar. He was there physically but never present, he just wouldn’t or couldn’t connect with her. She saw how other fathers were and couldn’t quite understand why hers was different. The same, of course, was received from her mother. Every time it happened, she laid her protective bricks. It happened so often from “friends” and “family” that she had her fortress up in no time. She was left alone in her fortress, able to hurt privately. They tell her she’s cold, unfeeling and hard to approach. But she doesn’t get why they can’t see that…
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The Day After
Yesterday was a very significant day in the lives of most people. It was not just the adults but even many teenagers had looked forward to it. It was a day to celebrate love and ironically, another day that could be a painful reminder for some people. And sometimes this pain could have been caused by unmet expectations, as well as the discovery of betrayal/two-timing. Without much ado, yesterday probably defined most relationships. I know of someone who proposed yesterday and got an affirmative answer, I equally know of a husband whose principle of non-celebration of the day has always been that he did not believe in Valentine’s day as…
