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Variable Factors
Growing up, I had a vivid image of what my ideal relationships would look like. I’d date a guy who looked like. Someone who definitely wasn’t younger but at most 5 years my senior (yes, I was really that specific. I wasn’t even willing to settle for someone my exact age). I remember seeing a married couple with what I considered an age gap. I didn’t like the way I felt like he could be her father and it automatically just put me off much older guys. Plus, it didn’t help that there were a lot of “uncles” who were just creepy!I am aware that these set preferences were formed…
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Crazy Proposals
I sit back at my desk thinking of what to write today as I have just returned from a long day shift. I hardly ever run out of ideas and have been thinking about topics we would be dealing with very soon but if there is any thing I would generally like to write about , it is those things I remember that bring laughter. Laughter sometimes not because it is funny but because somethings are so crazily akward that the only appropriate response is to laugh. I remember as a child going towards the bus stop where the shoemakers usually keep their wares / There was this particular shoemaker …
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And To Assume
Last week, we got a little history lesson on the term ‘Making Love’. We found out that it originally meant “paying attention to someone romantically”. Today, I want to talk to us about the part of this most of us ignore, forget or don’t even realise exist. And that’s the side of assumption. To woo, flirt or romance someone might mean so very different things to people, depending on their motives. So many times we (especially us ladies), jump to conclusions just because someone approached us in a certain manner. “He gave me a lift home, so we must be dating now”. Yes I know that’s extreme, but I know…
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Lost Love
It wasn’t love at first sight or anything. We were just in the same fellowship in college. In our final year we both became executives in the fellowship and you were the president. We got close in the course of working together as a team but even closer when we both had to resit a course each after our final exams. I remember those innocent years when the innocence of youth was undefiled. Our friendship was deep, we had so much in common. Unconsciously I feel in love with you. I spent a lot of time thinking about you it was until we left for home after the resit that…
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There to the End (2)
Benny continues her story till the Final parting. Her friend kept asking if she was still breathing and we were told she was breathing, I was just crying to GOD for mercy. I was too scared to ask if she was breathing and I wanted to scream at the friend to stop asking. The hospital was a 3 minutes drive, we rushed to the emergency, I rushed in to call a doctor, the doctor came took a look at her, checked her pulse and said SHE IS GONE. I called my husband and he was SHOCKED, we had left him standing and talking with some neighbors at home outside…
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Till the End
Sometimes we do no not ever comprehend that our friends will die. We just believe they would be there forever and are rudely shocked when they do not . I did have a friend who was so dear to me ,sharing about her is my way of grieving and cherishing what we shared . 10:04am 27thApril 2013 “She is gone”, my pain riddled brain was fogged, I thought, oh she has gone out and will soon be back, then I blinked and looked again at the doctor who just checked her pulse, the fog lifted, she is gone doesn’t mean she went out, she is gone means she is gone,…
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Half time Whistle
Hello People, I know we are almost 2 days away from the second half of the year and while this fact should bring a sense of urgency and destiny.it brings panic. There is this feeling of O Lord,it is another year passing again,is it not going to happen this year While it may seem like nothing is happening, the truth is that God is working behind the scenes, and a great proof of our belief in him is our ability to be grateful. As we approach the second half of the year,I urge you dear Reader to Count your blessings. This year, there have been many surprises with various…
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This Little Light
There comes a time in the life of most women, when you tell yourself ‘This is it. I choose him’or ‘I accept him’, depending on how many proposals you get. I wondered for many years how I would know the right choice to make. How do I choose one above all else, who is not Jesus? People had asked me in the past, ‘What will he do, to prove he is ‘the one’?” I really didn’t know the answer to that question and I told God not to tell me, but to show me, when the time was right. A friend gave me a message by a wonderful woman called…
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For the sake of “The Journey”
Dear Wonderful Readers, I really do apologize that we were unable to publish last week. We have been facing technology challenges but would be back on track. One of our writers went on a journey in this search for the “right one”. We would be sharing this but to keep the identity of the others involved, we would be using anonymous names. Wondering what it was? It is something we all do, we use it every time these days and most of all we do have gone digital. We buy online, eat online, make friends online and when it comes to dating online, don’t even go there! People are skeptical…
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Marrying by grace!
Well,I will first like to sincerely apologize to everyone who wanted to post a comment on the first article and couldn”t because I did not adjust the setting for comments when I started this blog.I also want to say a big thank you to those who actually bothered to write to me to say they experienced this challenge because that was what made me aware.This error has now been rectified, so you can now post your comments. So how has life been in the past 3 weeks I last wrote?Interestingly,I have thought of so many things to use as a follow up to the first article and have had to…
