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What Men want …4
We women generally love to talk and it’s not surprising that the men had something to say around this issue. “It’s very insensitive when wives talk bad about their in-laws in the presence of the husband. That hurts deep.” This is a word for all of us and not just women; however, women seem to have mastered the weapon known as the tongue, a bit more than the men. There are a few characters in this drama so everyone should listen up! In most cases the in-law(s) who is the subject of the matter tends to be female so only God knows what she said or did to warrant this…
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My altar journey
Diary Excerpt 1 :It really isn’t that easy, although everybody says it is. This is getting too tricky for my liking. Nothing could have prepared me for this but the pressure is serious. Big sis always says don’t make your husband despise your family and don’t make your family despise your husband. Really tricky!! I assumed that since dad is clergy and a really good marriage counsellor, my case should be pretty straight forward. I forgot this would be new territory to him and his reactions are so foreign to me. I don’t know this guy, cos this ain’t my Daddy! Diary Excerpt 2: I haven’t written in a long while because a part of me…
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She is “Silver”
The idea that there may be another significant woman in a husband’s life can be very threatening to a wife. We battle enough with mothers-in-law and special Aunties and even some godmothers; so to include the added burden of a devious other somebody is a pretty big deal. I prayed concerning this area before I got into marriage as I know that I lack the energy to fight for any man. Why should I have to? I told God I wanted what was mine and not another person’s property. God gave me ‘my own man’, but from the first month of our marriage, I had competition. Silver had known…
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That “other” woman 5
This is the concluding part from part 4…… Basically, her husband was a service provider whom I made contact with severally to supply certain things and my crime was that on her accompanying him to the delivery this particular time, she found out that my address had changed and he knew the new place I resided. I recall coming out to pick the goods and noticing her face was a bit sour that day but I concluded then that there was probably something else on her mind . I tell you it was painful but I did not know the extent of the pain until I left her presence and got on the one hour bus…
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That “other” woman 4
The instinct of the danger of the other woman is one that most women can identify with as far back as their childhood days. When it comes to being mistaken for the other woman, it can come in so many forms, sometimes from strangers who actually are acting in sympathy to the woman of the house and as such have tagged you a traitor who deserves some form of punishment. A University classmate of mine recounted recently how she went to the bank one day dressed up as usual (to give you a little picture, when we were in school, this babe was always dressed to the kill, on…
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That “other” Woman 3
Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ….It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right. There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck. It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family. Having anyone on the side to him is…
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That “other” Woman 2
I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old. I am talking practically daily… yeah, right? I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now. I took marriage and children to be a given. It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it? Backed up by my dad’s, ‘work hard, pass Maths and English especially, go to the University, then get…
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That “other ” Woman
We hate the other woman. Usually, we do not even know that she exists. Somewhere deep down inside we wonder because society has told us since we were children that all men cheat. All men cheat. This singular notion is probably responsible for the breakdown of most relationships. Both men and women hear this and it plays out differently for both sexes. For the man, it is a ready justification not to fight unfaithfulness. A ready excuse that exempts him from culpability because apparently his nature is prone to adultery. For the woman it is a complex mix of distrust, feelings of inadequacy and guilt. Yes, guilt. Somehow…
